I know this seems a bit crass and juvenile…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kittykatcole:  Like everything else in life, you can’t control what other people do or say. You can only control your response. Stop letting other people push your buttons.

” Thanks for your suggestion. We’ll take it under consideration.”

“Thanks for the idea, but we’ve already got that covered.”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Sorry you’re dealing with this. My only advice is to ignore, ignore, ignore. We’ve stopped talking about the wedding to most people because everyone seems to think they have a say in planning our wedding. I’ve been repeatedly insulted by FI’s family, spent a lot of time crying, and now I just don’t give a shit lol! Hey, it’s not my fault people suck, and we’re doing the best we can.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@kittykatcole:  Don’t post a narky message on Facebook. Keep it classy…unlike the guests who are making the inappropriate and unwelcome comments. 

Post # 8
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9533 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah. It can be super frustrating. But I think you just have to ignore and redirect. If you don’t want drama I certainly wouldn’t post “If you’re gonna act like an ass youre not invited” on FaceBooke. That would be a textbook way to start drama. 

So when aunt Lucy gets talking about how you simply must have a fully matching, even sided bridal party and you know full well you’re having mismatched girls and guys on both sides, instead of correcting her you simply say “You know, speaking of bridesmaids, my bridesmaid Emily just told me the funniest story about…”

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Is there any way to get someone close to your mother to have that discussion with her? My FFIL handled that conversation with my FMIL without FI or I even mentioning it to her (even though I’m trying to include her somewhat as they’re contributing to the wedding), and it has helped her contain her enthusiasm somewhat. It can be so much nicer to have someone else handle the situation, because they might do it more delicately than you (less personal frustration is involved on their part).

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