I know what I have to do for the engagement to happen!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Exie:  I think it’s great your committed to getting and staying healthy. But you need to want to do it for you, not just for a proposal. Best of luck, you can do it!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsWBS:  +1! Good luck with your great changes!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Exie:  oh good ! Start small and take it one day at a time! 🙂 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Exie:  I am excited for you and do not mean this in a snarky way, but from a therapist I am hoping you are getting some therapy and/or other help with your mental illness in addition to a healthy lifestyle.  Weight and food issues aren’t about a lack of motivation or gym membership- it’s a lot deeper of an issue.

Wish you well and congrats on your pre-engagement!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@Exie:  I wish you all the best on your journey. I do echo what others say when they say to make sure you do it for yourself, and not the proposal (I am thinking of relapses andwhatnot). I will tell you it won’t be easy and some days are more difficult than others (Which I know that you know already) but you can do it. I hope that you are seeing a counsellor to continue to get the support you need :).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Exie:  It’s good that you are motivated internally. I wouldn’t put a set number of times per week into the equation, though. Things could happen that get in the way of you going so often. Four times a week would be a lot for me (then again, I don’t really enjoy the gym).

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Exie:  And remember, if you find that you can’t get to the gym on a certain day, you can always work out at home too.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Best of luck to you!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@Exie:  do you have a mentor, or someone to check in with you daily to help keep you on progress? You can do this! You have this in the bag, sweet lady! I am your personal cheerleader 🙂 Yay for a timeline!!!!!!!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Fellow binge eater/cyster, HEYO!

Ahem. I’m glad you want to do this for you, it’s the only way you’ll ever be able to stick with doing it. Just be sure, be very sure, that he will stick by you no matter what. I’m a little uncomfortable with this idea that only if you do these certain things to be well will you be worthy of marrying. It’s such a balance thing – he loves you and wants to be with you, so of course he wants you to be mentally healthy and feel good about yourself. But that stuff has to come from within… so if you never got better, and if you slowly fall out of the gym habit in 6 months or something, he’d still want to be engaged to you, right? That’s what I think you should be sure of. If you’ve been together 4.5 years though, he certainly sounds like long haul guy, so I don’t know, maybe I’m being ridiculous. In any case I wish you the heartiest of good luck and all the high fives. You can do it, so go do it and congrats on your pending engagement!!

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