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ok bees i just have to get this off my chest, (this is a made up name, i am a frequent poster and dont want to b judged)
I have this frenemy we will call her B, her FI is my FI's Best friend. We both got engaged around the same time, our rings are similar, same size, shape, and style. Anyways B and her fiance are always bragging that he got such a good deal on the ring($1500 for 2 ct.). this just floored me. At first i went along with it and kept it to myself. But after a while it really started bothering me that they kept bragging about the great deal they got, and they are known for lying and streaching the truth. Well one day after haning out with them and hearing about how they cant believe that FI spent so much on my ring, and they got such a great deal i decided that i was going to do some research, i went online to the jewlers and found her ring, it was almost $6000. WHAT??? it was still less than mine but not anywhere close to $1500. I was so irritated. About two days later a close friend of mine went to the mall and we walked past the jewlers that B's ring came from, i had just got done venting to my friend about all of this, she suggested that we stop in to the jewlers and ask about that specific ring. well the guy that was working there actually pulled up B's account (prob. Really illegal) and he starts to chuckle, THE RING IS PREOWNED!!!
anyways i have known this info for a few months and have just kept it to myself, but last night we all went out and her FI made a comment about how he couldnt believe that My FI spent that much, Mine and B's rings are like the same, when really they are not. He goes on to tell me that he thinks b's ring looks bigger too. I couldnt believe it i was so close to just blurting out that i knew everything.
Bee's it is so hard for me to keep this info in i just dont know how much i can take. Advice please
Are you serious? Grow up! What difference does it make if her ring was “PREOWNED”? Maybe they would rather spend their hard earned money on something other than a piece of jewelry.
Good for them for getting a great deal on a pre-owned ring! They sound like they're very financially responsible!
Wow i think that this was takn totally wrong... I feel that my FI and i are always being put down about the mony he spent, and the style of my ring. Constently saying that her ring is nicer and last night being told that hers looks better, quite frankly made me feel like shit. Yes maybe went overboard, with going to the jewlerystore. I didnt go in there with the intent of asking the man to look up the account it just happened that way. knowing this info and consantly being put down about it is eating at me. I thought that some of you may relate, or have KIND words of advice but that is apperently not the case. So for fellow readers if what you have to say is Rude please just keep it to yourself!!!!
Wow, what an interesting life you must lead if this is what you spend your time fixating on.
ETA: KIND words? What have you said that's so kind?
Wow, sounds like they did get a great deal! Good for them! I've never really heard of pre-owned rings, I'm gonna go do a google search on it. Thanks for the tip :)
Go to cnn.com. Read about real problems.
Seriously, next time they bring up the price of your ring or hers, change the subject. I don't understand why this conversation keeps coming up - can you move on to discussing wedding plans? I also don't understand why a jewelry store employee would laugh about an expensive ring purchased from their store, regardless of whether it was preowned or not?
This post is full of lulz.
Lady, get a grip. Everyone that owns a vintage or estate ring is wearing a preowned ring as well... hell, even Kate Middleton has one! Are you going to look down your nose at them too? Oh the horror!
I think it's awesome that they got a great ring for a great price. No ifs, ands or buts about it.
Yeah it's pretty lame that they are bragging like that, but really I think you need to let this one go. It's really annoying that they compare your rings and prices and such, but maybe anytime it comes up just say something like "Well it's perfect for me and I love it" and don't contribute to the conversation...hopefully they'll get the hint that this isn't a conversation you want to elaborate on.
Really...this is gtting out of conrol i hav no issue with them getting a preownd ring, however making me feel like shit over it does bother me. the point i was trying to get across that i wish they would be honest
@mg1363: Thank you for your KIND words, i agree, i just needed a place to gt my frustration out and thought i could do that here, i plan on doing exactly what you suggested
I think your first statement on this post says a lot already... you shouldn't post something so negative if you don't want to be judged. That's all I have to say! :/
@annoyedbee123: I don't really think it is any of your business where they got their ring from. They don't need to be honest to you or anybody else. Maybe the reason they got pre-owned was because that is all they could afford and the reason they keep talking about it and comparing it to yours is because they feel a little insecure and jealous. Don't worry about it.
So your problem is that your friends are dishonest and say rude things to you and constantly talk about obnoxious things like how much their jewelry costs? Get new friends. Problem solved.
If you like your ring and you and your FI are happy with it and the price of it - that is all that matters to you and him. The ring that the other couple has and what they paid for it is really not your concern.
If it bothers that you that they tell tales, the issue is not the ring, the issue is their frequent stretching of the truth. If you enjoy their company keep hanging out with them and just quietly know you can't believe everthing they say. If you can't stand their constant boasting, ask your friends to please stop because it bothers you. If they are your friends, I would think they would stop.
wow I wish we could have found a 2 carat ring for $1500. My 1 carat solitaire was $3000 =( I would have gladly taken a preowned ring. lol
@annoyedbee123:They are being honest. They got a ring, it cost $1,500. Why do they have to say it was an estate piece or that it was pre-owned?
That was very unprofessional of the jewelry store employee (ie he should lose his job for sharing any information about clients). I would just let it go and change the subject when they feel the need to bring it up. Try to be the bigger person and not let it get to you, sometimes it's difficult but if they are your friends there is no need to be snarky... breathe and move on. Good luck.
I'm going through that bragging situation here too. It does bother me and I can see how it bothers you. What I would do is blurt out its preowned if she doesn't stop bragging, or say at least mine was NEW, but I don't know If I can be that mean. It's a tough situation and I don't think anyone can judge because they aren't in your shoes to tell you what to do. Try not to let it bother you, thats what i'm trying to do.
@annoyedbee123: I think the real issue is the quality of the friends. Get better friends. These people sound like very annoying people and life is just too short.
@windycitygirl22: "What I would do is blurt out its preowned if she doesn't stop bragging, or say at least mine was NEW."
First of all, there is nothing wrong with getting a preowned ring. The most beautiful rings in the world are often vintage.
Secondly, I think OP should really think twice about whether or not she wants to admit how she found this out. It's a tad psycho, honestly.
@burris4: Agreed , what friends do that to each other?
There is no reason either one of you should know how much each other's rings cost or care!
If they say anything again tell them that you love your ring, it represents your and your FIs relationship and that is all that matters.
There is no reason for competition - it is immature and petty!
I know YOUR secret!
... you probably shouldn't have posted this. :/
They are probably just insecure about it being preowned.
If they are good friends then tell them you don't want to talk about the prices of the rings anymore. Tell her you love her ring and are glad they got a good deal and move on to talk about wedding planning, the weather, anything else really.
My ring is pre owned and I'm not ashamed to let people know. I'm glad we got a good deal, but I don't go around announcing it.
It sucks that they are bragging about the ring and keep bringing it up over and over again.
But nothing they are saying is untrue. They got a 2 ct ring for $1500. Who cares if it is pre-owned!?!?! Digging into all of this stuff is taking up lots of time that you could be spending wedding planning, hanging out with your FI, reading a book, or one of many other productive things.
If you really dislike them that much, quit hanging out with them and get friends who don't feel the need to try to one-up you.
it is obvious that i was totally misunderstood...
I dont care that her ring is preowned, i looked at estate diamonds myself, and good for them i truly mean that. My only issue was that they are pushing it in my face that they basically got a better ring and blatenly saying that hers was "better". THAT IS WHAT BOTHERS ME!!! im sorry if it was misunderstood in my origional post but i really needed to vent. Im sorry that i am such a horable person for feeling the way i do!! i will be deleting BOTH of my accounts bc i felt that i could tell you guys things and get kind words of encouragment and advice however that is NOT the case. some of you are so rude it blows my mind...
and with that i am done!!!
You throwing a little hissy fit here just prooves that you are a material brat. Honestly, if her ring was cheaper good for them. If she and her Fiance are ok with the fact that the ring is preowned then you should just give it up. They are just excited that they got a good deal. If it makes you that mad just say something if not just drop it. I think it was a waste for you to post this here and pretty childish.
Post history is forever... just sayin'
A simple search can yield interesting results.
@annoyedbee123: I was kind of feeling like maybe you were not coming off the way you meant to in your original post, but than you post a tirade about deleting your accounts over other peoples opinions? Seriously, are you twelve? You have just succeeded in making your self look like exactly the things people were saying. Classy.
I mean, I kinda sorta kinda understand what OP is getting at, but I still have a hard time comprehending how she expected all of us to jump on the bandwagon like OMG you're SO RIGHT your friends are sneaky snide little secret keepers!!!!! When in fact, OP now has a bigger secret: that she actually went to the store and investigated her friend's (?) jewelry. That's a much bigger secret than a preowned ring.
@KristenGotMarried: Exactly... that's a pretty big invasion of privacy.
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