Post # 1
I like my FI’s family way more than mine and was wondering if anyone out there felt the same way. Part of me understands it’s because I’ve had to deal with my dysfunctional family for 33 years (and it’s a severe form of dysfuntion), and while my FI’s family (or two sincce his parent’s are divorced) has it’s own share of dysfunction, I find that I like them and feel a lot closer to them than my own family.
Anyone else feel that way? Did you ever find that it felt awkward?
Post # 3
@renwoman: In a word, no. But my FI loves my family way more than his own and has become a part of our clan.
Post # 4
@renwoman: YEP. 100% I have no problem callin up FIs Grandma but I dread calling mine. I guess its all cause I dont get interrogated from them like I do my own family.
Post # 5
* raises hand * Yes!!! By far. 🙂
Post # 6
Nope. I don’t like my family and dislike FI’s even more. I’m not a family person full stop.
Post # 7
I love my family of course, but I do love how FI’s family makes me feel so welcome. His family is bigger than mine and I find it more “fun” to hang with them. FMIL is a mother of three boys, so I think she just loves having another girl around the house. Both FI and I laugh because if there’s ever a little tiff between the two of us, my mother will take his side and his mother will take my side. We are lucky to have two families that we love – they are dysfunctional, but ours!
Post # 8
Yes. My husband’s family is so different than mine. They are very enjoyable people; however I give my distance in that I’m not the biggest family person. I’m very happy with a quiet, boring life without drama.
Post # 9
I feel like I mesh better with his family than mine. My family is a friggin train wreck, they can be so tacky, tend to lack class, and are generally undereducated overproducers 😛 I love them, I do, but it’s just not my lifestyle at ALL.
DH’s family is familiar with basic etiquette, but still know how to have a lot of fun. Actually his mother and I share many interests and hang out without DH regularly. I get along very well with his family, and it’s not like they don’t have their own fair share of dysfunction, but his side of the family has much less experience with prison, mental hospitals, and unemployment than mine.
Post # 10
I do , but only because they are so close and so supportive of one another . his parents and sisters always tell me how much they love me and sometimes call just to talk to me. They ask me how work is going and how the wedding planning is going. I spend every Sunday at his sisters place And we just get along.
i love my brother and sister, but they are so wrapped up in their own lives that they contact me once in a whileAnd usually when they want something. I wish I had with them, what I have with my FI family. Family is family and I love them all
Post # 11
Well, I like his sister more than I like my brother. I love them both, but my brother has an abrasive personality and anger issues. I’d say I’m more comfortable with my family (minus said brother) but obviously I’ve known them much longer.
Post # 12
@renwoman: OMG absolutely! And the sad part is DH’s family is rampant with drug/alcohol abuse and mental illness and they’re still more stable than my family.
Post # 13
@Aquaria: Totally get it. My FIs parent’s are divorced and yet his parent’s have a better relationship than my parents who have adopted the ’til death do us part or we kill each other’ attitude. It’s made worse by alchoholism and my mom’s Rx abuse. I’m terrified of the families meeting.
Post # 15
I love them all in their own way. But I’d rather hang out with his family than mine–my family will find a reason to yell at me no matter what I do.
Post # 16
Helllllllllll no (lol). My FI’s family works like a business; there are no hugs, no kisses, no “I love you”s. Ex: His brother bought a house for their mom, and is charging her rent. But then wouldn’t fix her leaky roof because it would cost him too much. Business. Not family.
My FI loooooves my family though, and my whole family adores him. He fits right in, and my mom spoils him, lol.