I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I do agree with part of this: “I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. It’s because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they don’t have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. Men don’t care to “manage a household.” They aren’t conditioned to think stupid things like that are “important.””  I don’t think it’s because women “secretly like to talk about how hard it is”, but it’s certainly true that it’s not a priority for men because they’re not raised to think that way.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@TwoStatesBride:  “I want to have a shower for a woman when she backpacks on her own through Asia, gets a promotion, or lands a dream job not when she stays inside the box and does the house and kids thing which is the path of least resistance.”

Yet something tells me she’s probably never done this for any woman, ever.

The bottom line?  She looks down on people – so that tells you everything you need to know about her.  Let her spew her bullshit – she clearly has issues and a closet full of demons that need dealing with.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@TwoStatesBride:  My biggest response to that article is that feminism is about the freedom for every person to be able to make the choices that better the world fo rtheir particular situation. If that means the man in the couple needs to take care of the home, so be it. If that means that both partners work, so be it. There are challenges everywhere, and raising the next generation rather than giving that duty to someone else is a reputable occupation.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@TwoStatesBride:  Blah. I just have to roll my eyes at people like this (to keep myself from screaming and waking up the baby.) I guess to some extent, I get that parties like baby/bridal showers do celebrate things that are traditionally “easy” (the act of getting married, the act of getting pregnant), but that doesn’t mean that either marriage or parenthood is by any means easy. 

I have a Master’s Degree (I didn’t pay for it, since I was a TA, but still, 2 years of hard work). I have an undergrad degree from a good school, I taught elementary school for two years, worked in mental health for two years, and then chose to be home when I was pregnant with my son. Being his mom is WAY harder than teaching at an inner-city school in Chicago (also about a billion times more rewarding, and the latter was very rewarding.) Choosing (at least for now) to stay home with him does not IN ANY WAY devalue the accomplishments I’ve already had in my life, except to the degree that they’ve become less important TO ME. My school didn’t call me up and try to take back my Master’s Degree… 

I think she feels the need to tear other people down to build herself up. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@TwoStatesBride:  I couldn’t disagree with this author more.

This woman is the most exceptional woman I know. You can’t tell me that loving one man for 40 years and taking care of him as his health fails is the easy road. You can’t tell me that raising 6 beautiful, kind, successful children is the path of least resistance. I don’t buy it at all. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I think the person is trying to be controversial on purpose. I’ve seen a lot of “articles” like that in the past year or two. They’re not real articles, they’re just a person taking a controversial opinion to try to make a name for themselves.

Everyone (or almost everyone) looks down on some others for a variety of reasons, some of which they know to be controversial. When they, unprompted, make the effort to stir the pot by stating those controversial opinions loudly in public, they’re just looking for attention.

Think of it, “I look down on serial killers and child rapists and I’m not sorry.” Are you going to read that article and get incensed because child rapists and serial killers are people too and if you only understood them better and SPUTTER!! FROTH!! ….probably not. But if you loudly state that you “look down” on [insert something about 20-30% of women do] …DRAMA!!! and people are talking about you, and hopefully, if all goes well, you’re a known name.

It’s basically pulling a Miley Cyrus.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel like any point she was trying to make, or opinion she had was really overshadowed by bitterness and harsh wording. :/

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Ugh, what a biatch!

There are some parts of this article that I agree with slightly… But wow, I hate the tone, judgement, and sanctimony from this nasty woman.

Post # 13
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1689 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That whole article made me so incredibly angry. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@TwoStatesBride:  Just the other week, we had some judgmental 25 year old talking about why you shouldn’t get married at 23 and there are so many other things you should be doing. Now you have this. Is this a trend now?

I mean, I’m bitter about A LOT of things. I just don’t hate-blog about them.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s sad how narrow minded she seems to be. I also think it’s sad the name calling going on in her comments, do people think that makes them better than her?!

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