Post # 1
I bought my dress 2 days after we got engaged. I really loved it at the time. It was a great price, simple, and……I think I may have gotten caught up in the moment.
Now, when I look at pictures, I just feel wide. And the last thing I want to feel on my wedding day is wide. I don’t feel wide when I’m in the dress so much, just when I look at pictures of me in it. I don’t know if it’s because my waist isn’t small enough or my hips are too big or it’s just not a flattering dress shape on me…who knows? But I feel like crying.
I should probably explain: I’m 5’2 1/2″ and about 115lbs. I am not big. I know this. (Although I could definitely use some toning.) But I feel like I look wide in my dress when you look at it from the front. In my head, I keep telling myself that I bought a size 4 and it had to be altered to a 0-2. There is no way that I look big. But when I look at the pictures, I just see blah!
Here are some pictures from my last fitting. There are pins in the dress because she has to take more in in the chest area. The waist and hip area fits as it is. Excuse the no makeup and crazy hair.
So what to do??? I love the simplicity of the dress. I’m just not loving it on me right now. Should I go look for another dress? Should I find a dark colored sash to give my waist some definition? My wedding is the beginning of October of this year and I have bridals in September. Help!!!
Post # 3
@mrs_lipscomb: I would add a sash. It will define your waist and give you more of an hourglass figure. I don’t know that it has to be dark to work, so try a little bit of everything. Also have you tried wearing a corset/bustier/shapewear under it? That might change how it sits.
I love your veil btw! Where did you get it?
Post # 4
You don’t look wide at all! You look slim and gorgeous. That said, I found that in my dress shopping, adding a sash definitely helped to define my waist. You might want to try adding a sash at your waist just to provide some extra emphasis? But you really don’t need it – your dress fits you beautifully as it is!
Post # 5
I agree with PP, add a sash and that will draw your waist in quite a bit, but honestly I don’t think you look ‘wide’!
Post # 6
I think you’re crazy 🙂 You look perfect. Stop second guessing yourself, try a sash on with it if it’ll make you feel better – but first I’d get your mother and your Maid/Matron of Honor around, put it on in front of them and make yourself stand there and listen to them tell you that you’re crazy!
Post # 7
I don’t think you look wide but I understand where your insecurities as far as the silhouette are coming from. I think you should definitely add a sash to define your waist. I think a rhinestone or beaded sash would look better than a colored one, but a colored one would work well too.
Post # 8
Girllll. You’re cray cray. You look so slim. I think if your arms were away from your body and your veil wasn’t blocking your shape, you would see it better.
I know you look gorgeous, but if you don’t feel like it, get a beatiful belt to accent the smallest part of yoru waist like the others said.
Post # 9
I’m almost the same exact size as you, and looking wide is my biggest/most frequent complaint/concern. I understand where you’re coming from. I don’t think you look wide (I know that will fall on deaf ears b/c others’ reassurance always does for me), but I do think a sash would make you look slimmer. Like asscherlover said, I don’t think it has to be dark. I would just make sure it really “pops” (whether that be sparkle, a contrasting color, etc.) to draw people’s attention in and towards it. Lovely veil by the way.
Post # 10
@mrs_lipscomb: I agree with other’s who adviced adding a sash. Also, I truly believe it’s your pose. Most people, including me, don’t look great, head on in front of the camera. Look through magazines and see how the models are posed, most of them are posing diagonal to the camera.
Post # 11
You don’t look wide, it’s just the silhouette of the dress doesn’t emphasize your waist. Grab a waist cincher and a sash and you’ll be good to go!
Post # 12
You look gorgeous, but if you want to feel more “pulled in”, then get some kind of undergarment, like a corset or spanx, and a darker sash and that will create the illusion of a more defined waistline. Honestly tho, you look very pretty in your dress.
Post # 13
You don’t look wide in my point of view! And when you’re in pictures next to your Fiance, he will make you look tiny!
Post # 14
Thank you ladies!! I appreciate the kind comments.
Ok, I have ordered a waist cincher and will see how big of a difference wearing that makes…and if I can breathe while wearing it, haha!
I am holding off on the belt for now. I really love the simplicity of the gown and worry that adding too much “bling” and I know it seems silly, but I really wanted to be in all white (or ivory in my case) as it’s my one and only day to be ‘the bride’! I also worry how the ruching on the dress will accommodate a sash. Feedback?
I think y’all are right about the straight on pose. My worry is that there will be lots of straight on pictures because of walking down the aisle and then all the posed “traditional” pics will be straight on too. I guess at least I’ll have my bouquet to block some of it??
@asscherlover: Thank you! I actually got the veil from a bride on here! I got my shoes here too! (I’m a bride on a budget….)
Thank you ladies for helping me in my moment of breakdown. I’ll post followup pictures after I put the waist cincher on. 🙂
Post # 15
You don’t look wide! But in the group photos, you shouldn’t pose head on. Do a 3/4 angle, it’ll be the most flattering :-). Nobody is at their best head on – but you still look awesome 🙂
Post # 16
Oh hun you dont look wide you look amazing!
i agree with PP though I would add a sash.