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ths probably isnt gonna make much sense as im still in shock and bawling as i write this. i just have to get it out. im scared to talk about it but it happened. my worst fear came true. yesterday we were suppose to see our little baby for the first time, at 9 weeks at a routine visit.. as soon as the ultrasound started, i new something was wrong, the lady got very quiet and just kept looking arond on teh screen. then  i asked her if evverything was ok and she siad the baby was measuring small. i knew what that meant and asked her how small. baby stopped growing at 7 weeks and my fetal pole ( i dunno if thats correct, my head hurts) stopped at 6 weeks. no heartbeat found.... my baby died 2 weeks ago, inside me and i had no idea. how does taht happen?? how did i not know? i was 9 weeks nad feeling good, i wsa suppose to soon be in the 2nd trismester. we had plans and names and hopes. im lost. it was suppose to be such a great day yesterday and it turend out to be the worst.

im mad at my body for betraying me- why couldnt it give me a sign that i lost my baby. i had no cramps, spotting bleeding or anything that would single anything was wrong. i was still getting morning sickness, throwing up, heart burn all this week...... i just dont understnad it al. it wouldnt of been so bad if i had a heads up but i expected to see our baby and now nothing. i have to go and get a ultrasound on monday ( this bothers me, every ultrasound i have had now has shown me what i lost, nad i have to see my dead baby on monday) and then get a d and c (im scared, i have no idea what to expect) as im not miscarrying on my own and probably wont. i just want to get hte procedure over with.

me adn my hubby are heartbroken, crying and a mess. he s been an amazng support. we just lay here holding each other in shock and cry... but ive never experienced a pain this harsh and real. I cant sleep its all i think about. i woke up and jjust stared bawling ths mornng as soon as i opened my eyes. all oru plans our child is gone.. i just want my baby back. i wont get to meet it or hold it. or know if it wa  aboy or girl. i have a child but no nothing about him or her.
We love this baby so mcuh. the pain jhurts so bad. we miss our baby (which i know sounds weird but its so true) we both felt so cloe to it and now our baby is gone. why? why, i read that a missed misscarriae happen to 1% of people. how dd we end up on those odds?
how do i deal with this? the pain is unbearable right now.  how do i move forward? please anyone whos been there please give me advice bc i dont know waht to do.... i feel so broken and empty. We just feel so cheated, and hurt and sad and mad. i feel so man emotions at once. i just kept thinking of how things wer suppose to go yesterday and then how they really went and im in shock. i just need some support right now, im lost sorry if this sounds harsh or something im just so upset an broken

First off I would like to say how sorry I am and how much it sucks.  I had a miscarriage in March and I felt everything you have said.  It took some time for me to grieve and it def. helps to have people around you supporting you or just there for you to cry to.  I felt very much alone and empty, but as each day passed it got a little better.  I don't think we will ever feel 100% better because I believe they were our babies regardless of how small and what others believe.  Please ignore all the stupid people out there who will say things like "oh god needed them more" or "good thing it happened early" and blah blah those people don't help and I just felt like punching them.  I did find a site called dailystrength.org that really helped me and there was a whole community of people going through the same thing as me.  DH and I just started to TTC again and I feel ready for it, but I will never forget my baby that could have been.  I hope this helped comfort you a little and if you need to PM me I will help in any way I can.  I ended up bleeding pretty bad and had to have an emergency D&C so If you have any questions regarding that I will also answer any you have.  I also want you to know and you may not believe it now but you did not do anything wrong to cause this so please do not blame yourself. Again I am so sorry.

I'm very sorry for your loss.  I also had a miscarriage yesterday, although mine was a little earlier and happened naturally.  I had had a normal ultrasound two days before it happened and had a hard time grasping what went wrong in just two days!

Continue to lean on your husband and family and friends for support, do what you need to do to get through this grieving process and before you know it, you'll be able to try again.  That is definitely what is keeping me going is thinking of the future and being able to try again and have a healthy baby.  I won't be having a March baby afterall, but with a little luck I might just have a July baby ;)

I am so sorry!  What you're feeling is completely normal, so don't try to shy away from it.

As far as the D&C, it's really not so bad.  Emotionally, of course it's awful, but physically, it's nothing to be afraid of.  2PeasinaPod wrote about hers if you wanted to go back and read the thread just so you know what to expect.

I know it's awful now, but it will get easier.  Give yourself plenty of time to grieve and heal, and continue finding support in your husband.  We're here if you need anything. 

i'm really sorry you're going through this. i can't imagine how you're feeling right now,but hope that it gets a tiny bit easier with each day that passes.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss :(