Post # 1
My husband served in Desert Storm, and has a box of all the letters her got while he was there. This includes a ton of letters from a woman named Diane. She was obviously very much interested in the man who is now my husband. I asked him about her and he admits that he liked her a lot but she was way more serious than he was, but that she was a great girl although he just wasn’t ready to commit on the same level. Keep in mind that these letters were written 10 years before we even met. To me, they are a glimpse into who he was at that time and I love them.
I saw a thread about old love letters and wonder, is it weird that I have positive feelings about these old letters?
Post # 3
@MrsFuzzyFace: It’s not weird, because your subconscious knows that those letters are all in the past and your husband didn’t have serious feelings for her anyway.
Post # 4
Haha it is weird, but incredibly cute. I love old love letters, but way too jealous to even read any from his past without getting mad at him. Irrational I know but I can’t help it. It’s good that you’re getting to connect with his past, even if it’s in a strange way.
Post # 5
Eh, I don’t think it’s weird. Maybe you like knowing that someone else was so into the man you ended up marrying? If the letters are adoring and praising his positive qualities, it’s probably a little reminder to you about what you love about him, too. I’m sure it helps to know that he wasn’t that into her. Perhaps you wouldn’t be so fond of the letters if Diane & your husband had been super serious.
I would think it was weirder if you read love letters FROM him TO another woman and liked them. I wouldn’t want to read those, personally – but I can see how you’d enjoy letters to him.
Post # 6
I have my Old Love Letters from my Ex (First Husband, met in University, married for 25 Years).
I’ve never thrown them out because (a) I’ve had them so long… and they’ve “moved” countless times from place to place… like 5 apartments and 3 houses (b) We were married so long (c) My kids or grandkids might appreciate them some day… I have an interest in Geneology / Life History, and (d) they do remind me of my youth and how much in love my Ex and I were at one time… giving credibility post-divorce that we did have something very wondeful once
Mind you I haven’t read them for years.
They sit in a box, wrapped up in ribbon. Along with a bunch of other memory stuff from my College Years… I guess I am just a sentimental sort of person.
Sounds like your Hubby is too… and that is never a bad thing… us Romantics can make life a wonderful place ya know… especially for those WE LOVE NOW !!
Post # 7
@This Time Round: I love this, and you are right. He makes life wonderful.
Post # 8
My mom kept all of her letters from her ex, my grandma had some from a guy. They tied them up with ribbon, too.
I dont think this is too strange because I think in the end, we all like a good love story or letter. Do you think you like it because it allows you to pretend you were the ones writing to him while he was in Desert Storm? I could see doing that…it could be a fun “Nicholas Sparks” like fantasy, LOL.
I’m so glad this post was that you like the letters…not saying how you are going to demand he throw them out, HAHA! (there’s a lot of that lately)
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s weird at all! I think it’s weird when people try to pretend like they never dated anyone else but their current SO and get rid of all evidence of anyone they ever dated. I kept stuff from old relationships (it’s all in boxes in the back of the closet) and I rarely look at it, but it’s nice to have mementos from the past. I know I’ll be happy I kept some of the stuff when I’m much older.
Post # 10
Sounds like you have confidence in your relationship. Sounds like a healthy outlook to me.
Post # 11
ive got my first love letter from my first ever boyfriend pasted into my scrapbook, he has read it but he says that is part of my past and it doesnt bother him that i kept it. I wouldnt mind either but fortunately he never dated before me so its not an issue
Post # 12
I have kept all the letters my ex husband wrote to me while he was in the Navy and we were dating. I figure that our daughter may want to read them some day. I have them in the back of my closet for when my daughter is old enough.