Post # 1
Hey guys! I need an opinion, this has been eating me up and I’m hoping maybe the hive can help.
I stumbled upon my dress shopping with friends for bridesmaids dresses, and before I put down the money I emailed my mom to make sure buying it without her seeing it first wouldn’t hurt her feelings. We’d been shopping three times and each time was realy, really stressful- my mom keeps telling me I need to lose forty pounds by the wedding, which I guess is true, but the way she talks about it constantly kind of hurts my feelings… alot. She was behind me getting the dress, which was a relief, but she seems really unenthusiastic about it- her reaction was “it’s a pretty dress, it looks good, it will look even better when you lose thirty pounds.”
she was supposed to come see the dress this weekend, and ended up cancelling- its really making me doubt my choice. am i just being paranoid, or does this not look as good as i thought it did? (please excuse the stupid look on my face)
Post # 3
I think it’s a nice cut on you 🙂 If you love it, go for it.
Post # 4
WOah those are some hurtful words from your mother. You will look beautiful in your dress even if you gained weight. I love the detail and the shape on you. It will be even more flattering after you get alterations too.
Post # 5
You look gorgeous in it. Disregard what your mother tells you about losing weight. Mine says the same thing all the time, and I choose to believe its because she just wants what’s best for me.
Post # 6
I think it looks beautiful on you!!!! 🙂
Post # 7
My Mom didnt like my pick either because she said I was too curvy. I switched dresses and it’s my number one wedding regret almost a year later. My husband said that I looked amazing that day, but that he thought I would have worn something more unique. When I showed him the dress I originally picked he said, “Now that’s more you” Ugh it made it worse, but I’m glad he was honest. Learn from my mistake!!! You look amazing. KEEP THIS DRESS!!
Post # 8
I think it looks beautiful on you as you are…if you love it, go for it! Your mom already had her wedding and got to choose her dress.
If you do want to lose 30 pounds though (only if you want to do that, not your mom), I would hesitate to order it because you will likely need a different size!
Post # 9
You look great, if you love it….go for it! I bet your mom is just reacting to not being involved in the initial dress shopping day, dont let it get to you! She is probably feeling hurt..which is silly. Give her an opportunity to go with you and help make decisions on something else (like flowers or something), and I bet she will become more supportive of the dress as she feels included. If you love the dress, get it!! It looks good!!
Post # 10
It looks great on you! If YOU LOVE IT~Get it!!
Post # 11
It looks BEAUTIFUL on you!!
Post # 12
im sorry your mom is using this time to bring you down instead of supporting you/being a positive part of the process – i mean if raising a great daughter isnt enough she feels she needs to remind you a better daughter would be 40lbs lighter
i like your dress, i really like the bodice and your tummy area looks flat, i hope you see what i see when i look at your picture
Post # 13
Its a gorgeous dress and you look stunning in it! Dont doubt that!
Your mother is not being supportive, but dont let that make you second guess your choice, I LOVE that dress on you and you will be a beautiful bride whether or not you loose weight.
Post # 14
That’s really mean. I think the dress looks good on you. It fits you well, imo. If you love it please ignore your Mother. She shouldn’t say such hurtful things.
Post # 15
I love this dress!! It looks GREAT on you!!
Post # 16
It was a horrible thing for your mum to say, but I’m not sure that the cut flatters you at the moment. Was that the right size?
It would look better with a bit more definition on the waist, which is possibly what your mum meant with the tactless weight comment, but which could be achieved with a corset rather than weight loss.