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I dont want to bash men on here by any means, but my FI can drive me crazy some days with the little things. The only thing that really gets me is, his dislike in emptying the clothes dryer. Seriously, he will just keep adding wet clothes in there and wonder why nothing gets dry. The other day i pulled out 3 hampers full of clothes! However I know that something I do everynight right before I fall asleep drives him crazy...I cough 2 times. I dont know why, and i cant stop it!!
Is there any thing about your SO that drives you a little mad?
Small things set me off too. Nothing big, but it's always the little things right?! He leaves the kitchen cabinet doors open if takes a glass/plate, etc. out. He leaves the shower curtain open so it sticks together and it's starting to get moldy. He piles his clothes on a chair in the bdrm and it's almost as tall as me!
I think it goes for anyone you live with though. I can name a zillion things about old roommates, my brothers, etc and I'm sure they've got them for me too.
let me count the ways...haha!!
and so it continues..
ok, i love love my FI. hes my bud. love love. BUT..
• he doesn't put away clothes. He lives out of a laundry basket.
• he doesn't wash dishes. ever. ever.
• he is VERY impatient, about everything.. it causes problems.
• he turns up the heat in the apartment to 90 degrees in the winter. its too damn hot.
i could go on, but i'll just stop here for now :)
Today is totally not the day to ask me that! Lol. We have not been on the same page for a couple days now. There's a big old list of things that I can't stand. I think the most annoying is when he says he'll do something, nothing hugely important, something like, take out the garbage. And 4 days later its still sitting in the hallway. Yuck and Ugh!
He always puts his dishes in the dishwasher...but leaves hardened stuff that the dishwasher won't take off and loads it in the weirdest way so you could only fit like 3 bowls in the whole thing
Besides the typical won't make the bed type gripes, the one thing that really gets me sometimes is that he has a very low emotional intelligence. He very rarely shows emotion, and he has no idea how to handle others who do. I was pretty upset yesterday about my first grad school rejection/worries for the future, and he replied by basically saying that it's my own fault for not applying to more schools and because I applied to Soc programs even though my BA is in English (nevermind that I have a minor in Soc and was already enrolled to finish a second BA in Soc for this spring when I applied). After about 30 minutes of me bawling, the lightbulb went on that maybe it would be better to just give me a hug and ask how I want to spend the evening rather than take off to go horseback riding with someone else. He was really sweet for the rest of the night, but yeah, that really does not help. And that's just the freshest example I have; I am slowly learning to adjust my expectations or turn to friends rathern than my own FI for support when I am upset.
OH..just like amaryllis..
He yells when I get upset and cry. I'm an oversensitive bee, and he doesn't know what to do when tears come a-flying, even when it has absolutely nothing to do with him and I'm just crying as a way to vent (out of anger, frustration..)
ugh!
hahaha love this thread! My FI is truely my best friend and since we are together alll the time it doesn't seem abnormal to me that certian things about him drive me nuts, such as:
*Is there a reason you can't wash off your plate and put it in the dishwasher?! It is right next to the sink where you put the dirty plate!! Not to mention when was the last time you EVER did the dishes? Oh.. never:)
*Shut off the lights when you walk out of the room! How hard is that?!
*May I ask why you have the need to completely undress in the middle of the living room and then leave your clothes there for me to take upstairs?!
*Can you just one time put a new roll of TP on the actual dispenser when you use the last of the TP instead of leaving on the floor for the cats to play with?
...I am sure there are other things but this list serves its purpose:)
This is greatttttt. @miss bella at least your boy pulls out a new roll of TP for you.. Mine leaves the empty one on the dispenser and I have to go find a new one AFTER I'm done and realize that it's empty.. ACK. Lately I have been frustrated by his forgetfulness... "Babe, can you take out the trash?" "Yea no problem!" 2 days later........ ack! Then he complains that I nag! Haha, I love him to pieces though..... and he never really means to make me grumpy... he's just a dude.
@Krissy- If you didn't have a picture of you and your FI I swear you were engaged to my FI. That is who he is. The toilet paper thing is ridic lately though. He has a cold, so he'll take the entire roll of toilet paper to the couch to blow his nose and never replace it. I went pee at like 3am only to find out there was no toilet paper, awesome. And why doesn't he use the darn tissues? Oddball.
@jennifer_espos .... well that's not a pic of us so it could still be true.. Especially since my boy uses TP as tissues too!!!!! He's never taken an entire roll out of the bathroom before, but the tissues are in the bathroom, on the counter, right above the TP holder.... DUDE just take a tissue!!
I think it's a gene that only men have about putting dishes in the dishwasher. He puts them on the counter directly above the dishwasher. I'm constantly asking him to please put them in. Or if he's going into the kitchen with a dirty dish, I'm always reminding him that the dishwasher is dirty.
@ Miss Bella- Im so glad you mentioned about him taking off his clothes in the middle of the room and leaving them there! DH does that too, and it drives me nuts! The worst part is that he just walks around in his under pants! At least put some other clothes on!
Mu husband is a grandpa. Seriously, he is soooooooooo slow. I'm worried about when we actually get old, how slow will he be then?!
Dishes is a whole other topic in our house. I make dinner, and usually clean up after or during the course of cooking. However after all the dishes are completed and put away and kitchen is "clean," he decides he is hungry or thirsty or something and makes more dirty dishes and just leaves them in the sink. MEN!
Now that we have bashed the men, is there something that you do, that drives him crazy??
Thankfully my SO is very clean and I'm the messy one.. but what I do have to say that urks me is the following:
- he will NEVER wash clothes, he just sits there and tells me for days that the laundry has to be done.
- has has an OBSESSION with PTI on espn like its a soap opera he religiously watches.
- he will starve if i don't make him food
- the lack of emotional intelligence(thank yoyu Amaryllis) when something is bothering me
-and i cannot stand when he keeps changing the freaking channel on the t.v. when i find one thing i like and he has to change it not only during commmercials but during the show!!!!
ugh!!! Men! Don't get me wrong I love him more than myslef and he is my best friend but wow sometimes i can't deal with him!
OH and do they all steal the blankets in the middle of the night, or is that just mine?
hhahahahahaha @miss bubbles I think almost everything I do drives him crazy. I am a little bit of a slob and I am totally the one taking off my clothes in the living room, bathroom, bedroom... wherever I happen to be at that moment... and then leave them on the floor. Except you ladies are so nice that you pick up after him when he does that. My boy just yells at me to pick them up.... then I laugh and go watch TV. I don't know WHY I do this, I am a total neat freak about everything else, I just have this weird (BAD) habit of throwing clothes around. Poor guy, it drives him crazy.
hahaha holddddd the bus..I never said he gets his own TP! I always here.."Babe, babe, BABE I need tp!" Get outta here with that..now I just have extra rolls in every bathroom! :) Men are great!
@missbubbles - ha! there is a huger list for me.
• the "umbrella" problem = i can be very messy
- i leave my clothes all over the bedroom (& dining room & bathroom)
- i leave dishes on the counter (ahem, but then i wash, dry and put them away. we have no dishwasher)
• i hate laundry so my basket of clothes is 6ft tall on average
• i'm not very assertive about certain things (ie. the light in the kitchen is out and i haven't called our landlord to fix it. i told FI i would. instead i put a lamp in there)
also our tub is clogged and haven't called about that either. At the end of a shower you are standing in a foot of water. ugh, gross. i know i know i'll call!!!
Ok I am totally the man in the relationship. I don't do most of the things you guys are complaining about, LOL 
. To be fair, I did them all the time before he moved home, LOL.
My big complaint? He thrashes in bed like a shark nomming on people or something. Hard enough to wake me up. And we have a foam memory mattress!....last night he caught part of my body under his and smashed me! I was completely thrown off for a few minutes. It's like "dude...don't sleep so violently!"
LOL this thread is funny cuz my FI does all the dishes, most of the cooking, and the laundry. That being said, I still get annoyed at little things he does like leave his goddamn used tissues everywhere. I mean seriously, EW.
Haha, this is great -- I have to say that I'm guilty when it comes to changing the TP -- I never do it. I' always get a new roll out but for some reason, I never put it in the dispenser; I just don't think about it. I will be the last to use it and just walk out of the bathroom without changing it. I know that it bugs the heck out of FI, so I am working on it. I also fail to rinse my dishes before putting them in the dishwasher and I know that bugs him too. He's no Saint, though...
*he leaves drinking glasses ALL OVER the apartment. I guarentee that if I walked into the living room, I'd find at least 2 glasses (one will inevitably be empty and the other half-full) on the coffee table, 1 glass on the night table in the bedroom, and a coffee mug in on his desk in the office. This drives me insane!
*he never takes the trash out...I always end up doing it. He will do it only when I ask him to, otherwise, I do it.
*at night, he falls asleep watching tv and I end up taking the dog out before bed. I swear he's faking it so he doesnt have to take the dog out in the cold/snowy weather.
Overall, he's a great roomie, and I love living with him. I keep telling myself as I go from room-to-room picking up glasses and bringing them into the kitchen, that I love him and if this is as bad as it gets, I consider myself very lucky!
@krissybee-I just laughed out loud about the lamp in the kitchen! Thanks, I needed a good laugh today!
@missbubbles- ha! glad you laughed :D i too think its funny!! FI? not so much.
haha. Our hallway light has been burnt out for about 2 weeks. He hasn't replaced it or the two in the living room or the two in the kitchen.
I'm wondering how long it takes. =]
@nic1520 OH MAN I totally leave glasses everywhere too... I totally forgot about it until you mentioned it. My SO says I'm like the little girl from Signs who left glasses of water all over the house.
@ejs...are you living in darkness? Or you could thank him, your electric bill will be lower!
the man will come home from the fire house, take off his shirt and pants, hang them over the back of the dining room chair, and then go upstairs in his boxer to shower. for the love of all things good, your hamper is in the bedroom! the same bedroom that houses our bathroom and the shower! bring your clothes with you! and when the clothes do make it to the bedroom, the chances are greater that they end up on the floor NEXT to the hamper. le sigh.
sometimes i don't get him. :)
@Krissy -- HAHAHA, that's great! That's totally what he reminds me of! And now, he has just been given a new nickname.
My FI is really good about helping out around the house. But I am sooooo tired about hearing all his medical complaints- he is a total hypochondriac! Nothing is ever REALLY wrong!
You ladies are hilarious. My fiance does of bunch of crazy things, mostly he is forgetful. He constantly takes food out and then doesn't put it back in the fridge/freezer. He's ruined about 6L of milk, a huge box of pizza pops (I found them 3 days later on top of the fridge), a couple of bricks of cheese, various veggies (I found a pepper UNDER THE COUCH once because he had to cut up veggies in front of the TV). . .ARG!
Ummmm.... yeah!! Let me vent!!! :-)
1. Please put dishes in the dishwasher!! PLEASE!! I pick up 4 glasses and a random bowl or plate every day!
2. He has a problem when I cry!! I am emotional and get over things rather quickly, but especially around that time of the month I will be sensitive. His ex had a 2 year hate everything bender so he is super scared of that.
Oh that is all for now, but there is always more.
Ha - this is great! My FI is pretty good with these things but 2 things that drive me nuts:
I feel like I'm the only one who ever refills the soap dispenser (and I don't even live there!)
After he washes dishes, he leaves the sponge sitting in the sink and doesn't even wring it out - drives me bananas!! ;-)
@fancygirl~eeww and then you get the stinky sponge..yuck
@Briana You found a pepper under the couch? LOL
You all are cracking me up! I'm actually messier than him, so I can't really complain too much about much with regards to cleanliness, etc. Although he gets up in the morning after I have left for work and never makes the bed. I've mentioned it before but nothing changes with that! I leave water glasses ALL over the house! I cook dinner nightly and he does the dishes. He's actually really good about these things. What bothers me is his driving..it's nuts! Too fast, too sharp turns...yikes! I mention this too and I swear it goes in one ear and out the other ear. My new thing I've just started recently is grabbing the dashboard..that usually gets him to slow down. :)
My FI leaves the shower curtain open ALL the time. We have a non-molding shower curtain and it still gets mold.
He's pretty good about putting things in the dishwasher (especially since we started using those tablets that don't require pre-washing), BUT when he empties the dishwasher, he NEVER puts any dirty dishes in afterwards. Drives me crazy! He said it's my job, since he emptied the dishwasher. I say that if he emptied it earlier, we wouldn't have this problem at all! (I run the dishwasher 99% of the time and re-arrange things to fit more stuff)
I also HATE when we are getting ready to eat and he'll grab a fork from the silverware drawer for himself but forgets to grab me one. SERIOUSLY? I actually make him go back and get me a fork now. :)
Though, on the flip side, I'm really bad at putting my plates and cups away or throwing away trash.
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