- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
First off, ladies, does the pill make it hard for you to get/stay very wet?
I have heard that this is true, and it seems true since I’ve been on it, but worse recently. I’ve been on the pill for 2 years now, and I started it when I started having sex with my (now) FI. At the start of the relationship, it wasn’t as much of a problem because everything was new and exciting and we were in a LDR for a while, so I was always ready to go when I saw him.
Now, we live together, and I’ve also been under a lot of stress lately with a full time job and grad school (it’s over for now, though!). I think the pill and the stress are affecting my sex drive – and even when I’m feeling horny, it is harder to stay wet… so frustrating!
Anywho, up until the past couple months we have been using lube pretty regularly to help out, but FI is starting to make comments about not liking to have to use lube, since I am supposed to/used to make it on my own. Ouch. I’ve tried to explain that the pill does this/there is nothing wrong with using lube, but I’m not sure he totally believes me since “before” this wasn’t as much of a problem, and I’ve been on the pill since we started dating.
I’m thinking that there is probably a cumulative effect of being on the pill for 2+ years, added to some stress factors.
Next VENT…I got another yeast infection a week ago. I have had 4 this year, after never having ANY beore in my life. Somehow, I think there is connection to oral… and FI was very hurt when I suggested this too! I mean, I LOVE oral… but if it is giving me yeast infections then it is not worth it! He is much less into foreplay now that I am trying to avoid sitting on his face to see if this helps prevent another yeast infection. I always wear breathable, 100% cotton undies, and make sure I dry off well after showers, and after working out/sweating, and I don’t put any soaps “down there”, and I STILL got another yeast infection, after an extended oral session… makes sense, right?
On top of all of this, I somehow got this strange not-really-an-STD-but-kind thing… called molloscum contagiosum. It is like little pimple/chicken pox looking bumps that are harmless, but take forever to go away… in my lady-parts area! I have NO idea how I got it… could have been from trying on clothes…beccause FI was my first partner, I know it was not from any other person. This happened a little over a year ago, and even though it sucked, we still had a pretty good sex life, we just didn’t have sex when there were a lot of them, and ALWAYS showered afterward. I had them for a little over a year, and they are FINALLY gone.
I just feel like FI is being kinda selfish and sulky, and I don’t get it… he was incredibly patient, supportive, and understanding of me, and did not question me when I told him there was NO WAY I got molluscum contagiosum from another person (it showed up 4 months after we started dating). Luckily, he did not contract any of the bumps.
Last VENT… it seems like our schedule for wanting sex is not matching up lately, and every time I’m actually in the mood, he is not. I was super ready for it the last couple days, but he pulled a muscle in his neck and could hardly move! The week before that I had the yeast infection. The 2 weeks before that I have 0 free time because of a crazy intense summer class and work schedule, and all I wanted to do was sleep!
UGH! I miss sex. We were not having as much because of the molluscum, and now that its gone it is taking up a rough time to get back to where we were. I am starting to stress about the fact that FI thinks I’m not turned on anymore because my stupid vagina is affected by the pill. Stress and good sex do not mix. How can he not understand that?