(Closed) I LOVE this meaningful garter-toss alternative!

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

ehhh. i think it’s strange and no man is the head of my household in any way- including spiritually so I don’t want him washing my feet as that symbolism. Degredation doesn’t have to be sexual and this is just another less obvious way of degrading women in my opinion

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Personally I think this is a little odd… But to each their own and if a couple finds it to be beautiful then power to them. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

Yuck. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mcklough:  Since the OP posted this in the “Christian” section, there are people who will follow male headship and spiritual leadership roles and it wouldn’t be seen as degradation.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Eva Peron:  yup…that’s why I said my opinion. I know it will be dissagreed with by many, but I also wanted to put it out there for people who had never thought of it that way.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Awww… I think I would totally start crying. That’s beautiful!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

They do this at my church on Holy Thursday ( I am Catholic). I havn’t participated but my Fi has. Everyone says it is very humbling and a great experience. Very unique to have in the wedding but why not have both the toss and the feet washing?

@mcklough:  The reason we do it at my church isn’t to degrade, it is to humble ourselves ( and for the record I am not humble enough to do this yet lol!) Like when the woman washed Jesus’s feet in the bible. Our church encourages you to wash a strangers feet and not that of a loved one because it forces you to humble yourself more.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mcklough:  Well I wouldn’t exactly see it as respectful to speak of someone’s religion like that. Some people  think aspects of the Muslim religion regarding women are degrading, is it our job to push our opinion on them and hope they think of things our way?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This seems so sweet!

Personaly I think I would feel too awkward, but I also want to do something different for the garter toss because I don’t like the idea of it

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It’s not something I personally would do because I don’t believe in that symbolism that men are the head of the household, nor the direct religious beliefs behind it. But, if it best fits you and your FIs outlook on life, then it would work as a substitute for the garter/bouquet toss.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@risingsun:  I think you should talk it over with your FI first and see how he feels. If you guys are on the same page, then I think it would be wonderful!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t understand why you need a garter toss alternative.  Can’t you just skip it?  That’s what we did.  (Note: We did not skip it for religious reasons.  We just don’t like the tradition.  And we skipped the bouquet toss too.)

ETA: I’m also not sure how this religious tradition has anything to do with a garter toss.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Eva Peron:  well if someone asked opinions on a muslim tradition that I found degrading I would say that too. I didn’t say “omg no one should do this it’s revolting” I said that in my opinion it’s degrading.

You are trying to claim that I’m forcing my opinion on people- I didn’t I said I was sharing it for people who hadn’t considered it. If this were to be the case why is the divorce thread happening right now even happening? People are talking about their opinions! That doesn’t mean that they want everyone else to agree with them. It’s conversation…

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