Post # 1
Last weekend my SO was on a stag do. Before the stag he was away with when then went straight to the stag do so it ended up being the longest we have ever been apart.
he has come back so loving, affectionate and generally being very soppy. I started to get a little excited until he said “they asked me if I wanted to marry you on the stag” to which I replied “well isn’t that the plan?” then he said “I said yes, of course, more than anything but only when I can give you the wedding you deserve”
a little crushed as I think now he is only making excuses. he knows that I won’t want a big wedding and would happily do it on the cheap. and the fact that we will never be able to afford a big wedding makes me think it won’t happen.
I told him that a big wedding didn’t matter and he cut me off saying I deserve a lovely wedding and had avoided topic since…
Post # 3
Maybe he’s the one who wants an elaborate wedding?
Post # 4
Why did he have a stag night so early?
I understant you aren’t really wanting a big one but it sounds like he does. Maybe he doesn’t feel like he’s properly supporting you if you don’t have one. You two should agree on a budget that isn’t to much so that it’ll be possible but not to little. At the moment I would just take it as he wants a big wedding and not that he doesn’t want to get married.
Save whatever money you can when you can. It may take awhile but money does add up.
Post # 5
I honestly wouldn’t worry! He wants to marry you, and he’s openly admitted that to you AND his guys, you can’t really ask for more than that! I guess if it comes up again just stress that you don’t need/want a massive wedding, but don’t downplay it too much like you don’t want a wedding day at all. LIke pp said, maybe he’s the one who wants a big wedding, but won’t admit it 😉
Post # 6
@greymonkey42: it was a 3 day stag do and was not the stag but best man.
hmm.. never thought about it like that.. he doesn’t seem the type.. interesting..
thankyou bees x
Post # 7
Got it that makes a lot more sense.
Post # 8
Yup, sounds like he might want a large/elaborate wedding.
Is he saving for it? Can you figure out the details of what this actually means and make a savings plan if it really is him who wants a large/elaborate wedding?
Post # 9
I agree with YUNO1. sounds like he’s projecting a bit. Maybe its the fact that he doesn’t even understand the costings of a wedding. To be honest, when I think wedding I think “Cha-ching” and every Bee knows it doesn’t have to be that way!
Just talk to him about?
Post # 10
We have both been very stupid with money and are now unfortunately in quite a bit of debt. I just don’t want the debt to stop us moving forward with our future. I have always said I’d happily have a very small intimate wedding and he has always seemed to agree..
boys are oddballs lol…
Post # 11
@LilMonkey: All you can do is talk to him about it. Have a heart to heart and see what he thinks. I hope it goes well!
Post # 13
@LilMonkey: dh started laughing when I told him what your bf said. Total delay tactic he said. . . sorry