I love you and want to marry you BUT..

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe he’s the one who wants an elaborate wedding? 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Why did he have a stag night so early?

I understant you aren’t really wanting a big one but it sounds like he does.  Maybe he doesn’t feel like he’s properly supporting you if you don’t have one.  You two should agree on a budget that isn’t to much so that it’ll be possible but not to little.  At the moment I would just take it as he wants a big wedding and not that he doesn’t want to get married.

Save whatever money you can when you can.  It may take awhile but money does add up.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I honestly wouldn’t worry! He wants to marry you, and he’s openly admitted that to you AND his guys, you can’t really ask for more than that! I guess if it comes up again just stress that you don’t need/want a massive wedding, but don’t downplay it too much like you don’t want a wedding day at all. LIke pp said, maybe he’s the one who wants a big wedding, but won’t admit it 😉

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Yup, sounds like he might want a large/elaborate wedding.

Is he saving for it? Can you figure out the details of what this actually means and make a savings plan if it really is him who wants a large/elaborate wedding?

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I agree with YUNO1. sounds like he’s projecting a bit. Maybe its the fact that he doesn’t even understand the costings of a wedding. To be honest, when I think wedding I think “Cha-ching” and every Bee knows it doesn’t have to be that way! 

Just talk to him about?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@LilMonkey:  All you can do is talk to him about it. Have a heart to heart and see what he thinks. I hope it goes well!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@LilMonkey:  dh started laughing when I told him what your bf said. Total delay tactic he said. . . sorry

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