(Closed) I may have to have a bridezilla moment, not sure yet though

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Bridesmaids jewelry
    Have them buy their own jewlery : (36 votes)
    88 %
    Buy jewelry for them : (5 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    just let them wear jewelry they already own. not a big deal at all.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think you are being a horrible person at all. To see things from her perspective though, if she’s been in that many weddings she probably has a pretty set idea as to what bridesmaids outfits look like and she’s probably just having a really hard time accepting that you want something different lol. Not that you are in the wrong at all, just maybe an explanation to her weird reactions. I would just ignore her protests from now on and just say “This is what I really like and I think it will look nice”, then change the subject.

    Good luck!

    Post # 6
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    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think it’s perfectly acceptable for them to get their own jewlery. Lots of brides WANT their girls to be matchy matchy, and I think it’s nice for them to buy the jewelry for their girls if they are going for a specific “look.” But what you mentioned wanting seems like something they would already have or could get for pretty cheap at Target or someplace. I say don’t let her get to you and stick with what you’ve already done!

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    No, I have a very similar situation to a bridesmaid who was married 5 years ago and doesn’t get the non-matching thing.  I would do what you want, it is your wedding not her’s.  However if you do decide to go the buying route, NY & Company (online or if you have a store close) is having all their jewelry Buy One, Get One 75% off.  I just bought all my wedding party jewelry there, definetely saved money!

    Post # 8
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    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    It didn’t sound to me like her text meant to imply you needed to buy them matching jewelry – just like she was confirming that the jewelry would be mismatched.

    If I were in her shoes, I think I would be confused by your response about the gifts, since it doesn’t sound (to me) like she meant to imply that in her text.

    (Or did I miss that part? sorry!)

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Don’t let her dictate what YOU want to get the bridesmaids as gifts. If she wants HER bridesmaids to match in HER wedding, she can decide that, but you don’t have to cowtow to her!

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    oh, ps – I don’t think you need to buy them the jewelry, even if she is telling you to!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @mrskisstobe: If she balks at the cost, buy yourself a cute bracelet from target and offer to let her borrow it for the wedding!

    Post # 13
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    1227 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I second summerbride12 – she is probably just not accustomed to the route you’re taking. I wanted to let my BMs pick out their own (nonmatching) dresses, and I really don’t care what jewelry or shoes they wear. This seems to be causing more confusion and stress than me just telling them what to do, lol! I thought they’d all love having the freedom, but it seems like they are feeling more stressed because they are afraid I won’t like what they pick. Maybe your BM feels the same way, at least about the jewelry.

    I don’t know what her deal is with arguing with you about what shoes you want the girls to wear. To me, that’s kind of rude for her to force her opinion about what everyone should wear.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    From all the weddings I’ve been in, I would say non-matching anything (shoes, jewelry) is not the norm.  I personally love the variety, but if she’s been in a lot of weddings, these ideas may be new to her.  In my experience, people have a hard time comprehending ideas outside of their conception of a wedding. 

    It doesn’t sound like she’s been snarky (that would be different), it just seems like she’s unaccustomed to the ideas you’re presenting.

    Some people are very nervous about picking out anything outside of the bride’s “vision”.

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