Post # 1
A little back-story about my relationship, first:
Back in May, my (now) ex-FI ended our relationship/engagement out of nowhere–we were planning our wedding, and house-hunting one day, and the next, he just combusted (for the lack of a better word). It’s now been almost 8-months since we split, but we’re slowly working on things, and trying to figure out if we can really make ‘us’ work, again.
Anyway, ex-FI spent the holidays together. During the time we spent together, he also took me to visit his parents, and the rest of the family, whom I hadn’t seen over these last 8-months. It was great! I was afraid it would be awkward being around them (I even made a post about it a few weeks ago), but it wasn’t awkward in the slightest.. in fact, it was like nothing had really changed, and we all had an amazing holiday.
Enter in a conversation with ex-FMIL. I love that woman! Maybe because we’re so eerily similar, but also because she’s been pulling for ex-FI, and I through all of this.. she’s been a shoulder for me to lean on, and I’m so grateful for her!
Anyway, we got talking, and she basically babbled on about how much she misses me, and let it slip that I’m her favourite daughter-in-law! That caught me off-guard like you wouldn’t believe. Not only because I’m no longer with her son, but because.. who really lets something like that slip? Haha. Apparently she’s never really liked any of ex-FI’s brothers’ partners.
I felt/feel so loved!
I really have more reasons than ex-FI to get back into this relationship, lol.
Post # 3
@brighteyedgirl:It seems like you have a wonderful relationship with his family, that’s a bonus. How are things working out between the two of you? Do you think you can make it work? It would be nice if she said “he” had missed you and you had been his best girlfriend ever. Sometimes emotions can get fuzzy, you are not marrying the mom as fabulous as she seems, you are marrying her son.
Post # 4
@Soladylike: Things between ex-FI, and I are good as well–I just didn’t want to turn the post into one about our relationship, is all. But, yeah, over the holidays we had a chance to talk more, and really open up about what we want/need out of the relationship, but we still want to take it slow, and make sure that if we do try again, that we’re doing it for the right reasons.. not just because of our history.
I agree, though.. getting along with, and having a great relationship with his family is definitely a bonus. :]
Post # 5
Awww, I can understand that!
Before I started dating my current FI, I dated this guy for almost two years. I loved his family–especially his mom! She made me feel so welcome, was really sweet–just awesome! When I broke up with him, it was almost like I missed her more, LoL! Also, when I started dating my now-FI, his mom and I didn’t click right away. In hindsight, I was her son’s first girlfriend, and they were afraid I would stop him from being successful in school (as soon as he got accepted to a grad school out of town and I supported it, it completely changed things with his mom and I). His mom and I get along well now, but it’s still not quite the same as it was with my former SO’s mom.
Post # 6
Before my FI, I was seeing or just befriending a coworker whose family adored me! His grandparents, niece and just about anyone whom he called family loved me from the first time they met me. Our relationship never got beyond a professional one, but his grandma one day told me I was the greatest granddaughter she ever had (none of her grandson are married..they’re in the later 30s). We were both sad that things didn’t work out between us, he was an amazing guy and we both love each other very much..we just weren’t meant for each other. Sometimes things don’t work out even under the best of circumstances. I was really heartbroken when I decided to stop seeing his family. We were getting too attached and it was so hard for me to let them go. I still visit them once a while and send them gifts for birthdays and holidays. I do miss them a great deal, but my FILs are just as great so I guess I’m subing one for another.
Hopefully things will work out for you so you don’t have to part from your family. =)