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    egb    January 2010  

    I feel very sad that I'll never get to do it again... wear the dress, have the hair and makeup done, share these incredible moments with my husband... People tell me that this is what vow renewals are for, but it's not the same!!

    Anyone else felt the post-wedding-blues?

     
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    jackie-o    October 31, 2010   Seattle, WA

    I am not there yet however I continue to hear about this - - - I agree with you, vow renewals aren't the same.  Chin up, keep looking at the pictures - reading your blog (if you have one) don't completely stop everything you were doing before you got married. Take it one day at a time.... Wink

     
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    shannon1126    August 21, 2010   Washington, Wedding in Vegas

    I fear I will have a little of this too. I want it to be like a FULL day celebration, start with the ceremony and pics at 8am please lol jk 

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    I didn't and haven't gone through PWB yet but I can imagine what you are feeling. At times I do reminisce about the wedding but to be honest I am thankful I am done with the planning which comes with the wedding. There were good and fun times to it all but there was stress involved with the planning. If I think about it too much it will drive me bonkers!

     

     
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    FutureMrsBLT    September 12, 2009   Washington, DC

    I am probably rare...I don't miss it at all. Don't get me wrong, I look back at pictures from the wedding and I am so happy but no one could pay me enough money to do it over again. I have never felt so much stress and anxiety in my life!! My sister in law who is only in her mid 30's has done it FOUR TIMES and talks about wedding planning like its the best thing ever!! I can't even imagine! Then again, she's been married four times Wink.

     
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    spraguebride    August 8, 2009   Bothell, WA

    You are so normal.

    I think so many of us feel the same way. I know I do.

    Its hard. You spend all this time planning and looking forward to this big day.....and then it's just over. I know at 1st I felt so sad about my dress. I loved it so much and I couldn't beleive that I wouldn't get to wear it again

    Here are some tips:

    1) Consider doing a TTD session. I am not 100% happy with my pics...so unstead of being upset forever...I have decided to do a TTD style shoot for our 1year. Think about something like this. You could get back in your dress and get all dolled up

    2) Think about something else to get excited about. Maybe nesting and getting really into decorating your house. Or think about planning a big vacation. For me, distraction and changing my "obsession" has worked really well.

    The best thing that is working for me is finding something to replace the wedding. After the wedding I got really into using all my newlywed cookware and cooking. I got really into nesting and read home decor blogs

    Now I am planning a lifelong-dream-trip to Europe

    Try to find something else to get into. Get excited about being a newlywed. Use all your new stuff. Have a party and use all your new platters. Things like this can be helpful.

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    Oh, I don't miss the planning at all!! In fact, we did a DW in an all-inclusive resort in order to have the least planning possible... I guess that's what made it so perfect for us (aside from marrying the best partner ever). It's the day itself that I'm missing...

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    spraguebride: you're right, these are very good ideas! especially the one where I get to wear my dress again, lol! :)

    We're actually planning a couple of trips to europe and south america; and I'm starting to think about renovating projects; although DH is not quite on board with the renovating yet...

     
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    MrsJellybean227    January 1, 2011   TN

    I haven't gotten married yet but I fully anticipate the pwd (post wedding deppression) or pwb (post wedding blues). I've been engaged for 3yrs and by the time we wed next January it'll only be a month and 2wks before engaged for 4yrs. So basically what I'm saying is` I've been thinking about our wedding for a very very long time. Plus I've planned our wedding before, but we cancelled abour 4months before we walked the aisle.

     
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    I keep thinking about all the domestic projects I can do, and the money I'll have to plan other parties. Get into hosting dinner parties or something! If you keep reading wedding blogs and such, you'll have great ideas for them :)

     
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    bloodgo1    May 14, 2010   Royal Oak

    awww haha well i'm not there yet, but i do worry that after the wedding i'm going to be like 'ok... now what?' i don't know what i'm going to surf the internet on for hours and think about all of the time anymore!! lol some people hate the planning i know, but i personally have loved planning the wedding. i think i'll move my obsessive behaviors toward home decorating next ;)

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    Ugghhh...I SO understand!! I totally had post-wedding blues :(  I was really sad for a WHILE after our wedding.  Fortunately we had the holidays right after our wedding, then we took our honeymoon 1 month later - so we were pretty busy for the 2 months after our wedding.  After that, when I had more free time, I started to get sad.  Planning my wedding had really become a (full-time) hobby that I enjoyed, a LOT!  So it was like I had to give up my hobby :( 

    HOnestly, after that I threw a couple showers and planned a dinner party.  I found that staying busy and doing the party planning aspect for other events really boosted my spirits.  I hope this feeling passes quickly for you.

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    yikes!!!! I have a huuuuuuuge feeling that this is what I would feel after I get back from our honeymoon :(

     
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    leelee    February 21, 2010   NH

    @eqb!!!! I am going through the same thing!!! I look at my pics daily and my house is loaded with them...walls, bureaus..my desk at work...my phone...I think because I plan corporate events, I still have the planning buzz...but its different...I truly treasure every moment of our wedding weekend...it was the most beautiful day and we were surrounded by so much love and happiness..I really feel lucky to have that in my life! 

     

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