(Closed) I miss the good old days when I didn’t need to post this often…Mother’s Day…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I go "home" for mother's day?
    Absolutely Not. Why reward the bully? : (38 votes)
    84 %
    Yes, to fix the situation and reunite the family before the wedding. : (7 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I know this is a really difficult and awful situation to be put in but I wouldn’t go if I were you. I know it’s your mother but just think if anyone else did this to you would you allow them to walk all over you. I watch my husband go through this battle on a regular basis everytime a holiday arrives and he struggles with the issue of it’s his mother and I just remind him that he is a wonderful amazing man and noone should have the right to hurt him and he can’t continuiously put himself in the same situation to get hurt. My heart goes out to you.

    Post # 4
    Member
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree with roxy821

    Post # 6
    Member
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @Ms. Polar Bear: No, it’s way to soon to try and make amends and if you ever decide to. It should be on your own time when you feel ready and believe that your mom has changed. My heart goes out to you because I know how difficult it can be. I’m estranged from my dad so I know what it’s like for other family members to tell me to “put it behind me” especially over holidays. PM me anytime and I’ll be there for moral support 🙂

    Post # 7
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    2462 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    not unless she apologizes (and means it). you’re right that it’s “the abuser who is supposed to eat some crow,” you owe her nothing right now. i know you’ve said you’re dad is doing what he can to protect you right now, but pushing this is basically like enabling your mom to keep abusing you, like saying the crap she’s putting you through isn’t as bad as it really is. it’s on her to step up and make this right–not you.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @Ms. Polar Bear- I watch someone I love go through this as well and it breaks my heart. Please feel free to PM me if you ever want any advice or just a sounding board. And just think once you are married at the end of the day the only person next to you at the end of the night is your husband. You two will build your own lives and own future and that will be your family and safe place.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @Ms. Polar Bear- I’m glad to hear that you have someone wonderful in your life to support you.

    Post # 12
    Member
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’d go there with a Huge trashbag or luggage container and while grabbing anything and everything possible/needed talk to your dad but DO NOT COMMIT!!!!

    If he corners you, honestly, I’d lie my ass off to him.  Especially if it allows you to take your stuff and leave.  Then, I’d have something come up and you can’t make it.

    I know, it’s wrong and evil and you’re trying to be the better person.  But, sometimes you’ve gotta fight fire with fire. 

    so sorry you’re going through this and I’m so glad you have someone who loves you and is there for you.  

    Post # 13
    Member
    2373 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    I’ve read your last two posts and I can’t figure out what’s going on with your mom, but if she’s poison maybe it’s best to keep your distance.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Ms. Polar Bear: I think your father is being unreasonable, as is your friend….your mother berated you, ventured on calling you a slut I believe (the balls comment), kicked you out for no sane reason, and then has proceeded (I assume) to bully your father into making sure YOU are the one who apologizes….for just being alive I suppose?

    This is insanity, you shouldnt put up with this, and honestly? neither should your father. Im guessing that your not the only one being bullied, but at least you can have the courage to actually stand up for yourself in this situation.

    Post # 16
    Member
    5756 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t understand what’s going on either. Did you delete some things explaining what happened?

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