I Need A Big Push!!!

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think we’d all agree this relationship is no good for you. He just doesn’t sound ready for a relationship and lies and/or whines to be away from you.

If you live with him, is your problem you’re not sure where to go? Speak to a friend and make arrangements to move, then it’s harder to back out of doing it.

If you don’t live with him, just stop seeing him and make other plans each day or night.

Post # 3
6435 posts
Bee Keeper

You will be better off without him. It’s better to be single than be in an unhealthy relationship that brings you down. You deserve better. You can do it!

Post # 4
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You don’t deserve to be treated this way. But I know you know that. Plus, with this jerk it sounds like ending up away from him on your birthday will happen anyway.

Just call him. If he’s not ready to talk, its too damn bad. Everything else is on his time. End it on your time. Dont waste another second on him.

Post # 5
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Poor you!! *hugs* This guy sounds like a complete bastard!!! What do you think it is that’s preventing you from leaving him?

You deserve to be treated far, far better that this.

Post # 6
5187 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

End it.  Right away.

Post # 7
812 posts
Busy bee

What push do you need? You admitt this is an unhealthy relationship. End it and go do the things that you’ve been denying yourself for the past nine months. 

Post # 8
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

What the hell is he teaching his daughters?!?

The fact that you wrote that here, asking for help is all the strength you’ll need girl!! Coming from a prior abusive relationship (mentally and physically) I can sympathize with you on how hard it can be to muster up the strength to just leave. 

But you can do it – just remind yourself you deserve better, you can love yourself better, you can have a better life. Show yourself how much you love yourself and LEAVE. My heart aches for you – sending big hugs and postive thoughts!! Please keep us updated!! You can do this!! 

Post # 9
314 posts
Helper bee

This guy sounds like a selfish jerk! You don’t need this shit, you deserve better! DUMP HIM!!

Post # 10
3432 posts
Sugar bee

jamgirl77:  You deserve so much better.  He sounds like a child.  Pouting until he gets his way?  What is he?  five?  That’s the stuff my daughter would pull, not a grown man.  Leave him and find someone better.  I know it’s hard, but you can do this.

Post # 11
2132 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Seems like you know what you need to do.  Hopefully seeing it in writing is all the push you need.  Break up with him, and soon.

Post # 12
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went out with someone once who was all “take, take, take”. Not in the same way as your guy but it is very draining when you are doing all the giving and bending. At the moment you don’t have any real ties with the man so just get out of there, give him the reason then maybe he can think about his ways for the future. 

Post # 13
1208 posts
Bumble bee

Sounds like BS to me.Dump him and move on.

Post # 14
45 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

Life is too short to be unhappy. i know I would rather be alone, then unhappy with someone who doesn’t appreciate me. I always tell people who come to me for advice, what would you tell your best friend if they came to you with the same problem? If this guy wouldn’t be good enough for your best friend, then why is he good enough for you? you’re wasting time with a loser, when you could be searching for your Prince Charming! Nip it now!!!

Post # 15
4878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

He sounds terrible.  The best birthday gift you could give to yourself would be to remove this toxic sludge from your life.

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