I NEED a good emotional vent…anyone else???

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You have every right to be upset about this. Was there some major family commotion that led to them treating you like this? (I’m sorry….don’t answer that, none of my business, but it ran through my head).<br /><br />Weddingbee is a great place to vent, you’re not the only one. I haven’t even set a date and have had my fair share of tears already. (We are also paying for everything ourselves, and my mother is making some demands already….)

It’s very hurtful that your dad is being this way, and I hope that your FFIL goes along with wearing whatever nice clothing you want. 

It sounds like you have a great supportive family waiting with open arms to welcome you, so there’s at least a positive to this. When your own family is getting you down – you’re joining one that will bring you up!

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If this was me, I’d tell my dad to kiss my ass. I wouldn’t want someone at my wedding who can’t even show one iota of excitement for me. To do it for your sisters and not you? No way. Any decent dad should be able to suck it up for one day, and at least pretend to be happy. Same goes for your mom.

But, you may not be like me. In which case, if they can’t be reasoned with, you’ll have to roll with the punches and make sure that other details that you can control, are to your liking.I’m really sorry this is happening. I’m pretty upset for you.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  hippopotamus.
Post # 5
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Soonerbee07:  It’s really sad that their favoritism is showing it’s ugly face right now, of all times. And I HATE it when people try to tell me we are wasting our money!!! My mother had the biggest wedding of the family and tells me we should not even bother….but this is OUR day, so PPPFFFFFTTT to her! I truly hope your FFIL gets the tux. Tell him he will not feel awkward, he will just feel super snazzy 😉 

Post # 7
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Its OK! Its excellent that you stood up for yourself. And, its OK because they were acting inappropriately, not you.

Post # 8
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Good for you for standing up for yourself!!!!! You’re not a bridezilla for this, no matter what they say. And your way is the best way. I hope you have a beautiful wedding, with low drama, and who gives a damn if they don’t like it. I also have a reputation for not standing up for myself just to avoid the stigma/drama….Talking to someone about your issues with them can’t hurt, but as long as it’s just for your own peace of mind. Good luck, lady!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Soonerbee07:  Having no other information about the relationship between you and your parents, they sound awful, I’m so sorry.  Now if there’s more behind it, if you’ve put them through years of drug use, stolen from them, called them names for ages, and then turned yourself around, I could understand their apathy to some extent.  But I’m guessing that’s not the case, so honestly, I don’t know that I’d want that guy walking me down the aisle anyway.  I’d seriously consider blowing off your dad and either walking alone or asking your FFIL to walk you, he sounds like a gem.  And I definitely do think sitting down with a professional to discuss your family relationship would be good for you, because we tend to hold on to these feelings and they can manifest in other unhealthy ways if they aren’t adressed.  Best of luck hon!!  Be glad you’re starting a new family of your own with your FI 🙂  And hey, some families are simultaneously awful AND over-involved, at least your family will be easy to avoid.

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