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I voted for FSIL only because she seems most likely to jump on it. Since she is already invested in your day, she'll get on the ball about getting the dress and following up on the details. She just seems the most drama free. And I don't think it will be a big deal at all that someone else will escort her.
id say ask your FSIL. it sounds like you two are becoming close and that you get along great! i dont think its weird that she wouldn't be walking with her husband. just ask her if she's ok with it. if she is, then you're good to go!
See, I thought the same thing. But my FI just told me he thinks it'd be weird. But what does he know? Right? Or should I just respect his thinking?
I would say don't ask anyone and leave the numbers uneven. I only say that because like you pointed out, it's only two months away. But if you want to ask someone and don't want to have numbers uneven then ask your FSIL.
i voted for your FSIL. it seems like you have started to really grow that relationship and she would want to be there for you. plus she's guaranteed to be in your life now that you're joining the family. i also don't think it's weird that she wouldn't be walking with her husband. good luck!
Personally, I wouldn't ask anyone this close to the wedding. They're going to know they were a last-minute pick and that kind of s*cks.
That said, I don't think it matters if she walks with someone different. My sister is my MOH and her fiance is in our wedding as a GM. He's walking with my little cousin and my sister's walking with Best Man (FI's brother) NBD.
I really don't think it'll be weird. It's just a short walk down an aisle. I am not sure why your FI is so opposed... that baffles me lol. I would definitely choose FSIL :)
maybe if you, your FI, your FI's brother, and his wife all sit down and talk about it, he wouldn't be so weirded out. alot of people have their future in-laws in their wedding parties. happens all the time. :) sometimes guys are a little off when it comes to wedding planning but you do still need to respect his wishes for the wedding also. its his day too. like i said. i think if the 4 of you all sit down and discuss it, it most likely wont be an issue.
I don't think you should ask anyone this close to the wedding. I think it's awkward to be asked as basically a "stand-in" or "runner-up". There's nothing wrong with uneven numbers.
My sister and her husband were both in my wedding. She was MOH and he was a GM so they didn't walk together, but they didn't mind! They had to walk apart from eachother for about 30 seconds and then they were able to spend the rest of the day together. No biggie.
@hotchild- my BIL (sisters hub) walked with my little cousin and my sister walked with my husband's brother too!
@wifeywife: haha. That's so funny. My sister is actually a little nervous about being taller than FBIL!
I agree with soontobewalsh. Since it's so close to your wedding date, I think you shouldn't ask anyone and just leave it uneven. However, if you do not feel comfortable leaving it uneven and you really want to ask somebody, then I would ask your FSIL. It sounds like you guys are pretty close and I don't it would be weird having someone other than her husband walk with her.
hotchild- haha oh no! My sister is 4'11'' So I wasn't worried about her, but one of my bm's ended up being about an inch taller than her gm b/c she wore HUGE heels. No one noticed as far as I know though...
I would feel excited if someone asked me to "stand in" for a klepto-fired BM! I know that sounds weird, but you could say that you are excited for the opportunity to include her in your wedding and you don't know what you were thinking not having picked her in the first place. As for not walking down the aisle with her DH, why not just have everyone walk alone? Just shorten the distance between them and have the Best Man walk first, then the MOH, then a GM, then a BM, etc. Just have them walk a little faster if you're worried about time. NBD!
Does FSIL know about the drama? (I'm guessing she does. If so, I don't think she'd be offeneded. At least, I wouldn't.) How easy would it be to get another BM dress?
Honestly, I think it would be a great way to keep her and FI's brother together the day of the wedding. (You could try to spin it that way, if you think she might need some convincing.) She would be able to be in the limo with him, if you're having one. She'd be with you all for pics etc. Sure they aren't paired up, but what's that wlaking up and back down the aisle?? Even if you have a BP dance, really it would be OK to have her and FI's bro dance together. Then have the MOH dance with a different GM.
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This is such crap! I keep having stupid BM drama. I already had to replace one, but it wasn't really drama. We're both still friends she just couldn't afford it. Now, I have to replace another one. I don't know if any of you remember by BM who was a theif post. Well, obviously she's not coming! I have to make a choice to either replace her or leave the numbers uneven. And I have to decide soon because I'd need to buy a dress.
Here are my choices- either my FSIL. She's married to my FI's brother. She's cool, we talk a lot, mostly about my FI's family. The only issue is that her husband is FI's best man, so she wouldn't be walking with him. Wouldn't that be strange? Or is it not as big a deal?
The other is one of the nicest friends I have, she's great. We went to HS together but only became close in college. Its just that we're so not close anymore. Our conflicting schedules don't permit getting together too often.
Honestly, I feel so strange asking someone at all with only 2 months to go. I know that they would understand but it feels odd. Bees, what should I do?