(Closed) I need advice

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Give it a week to think on it. This is BIG news, whether you are trying to conceive or not, and it is definitely a shock for awhile. Give it a week or so to work out your feelings on it- it might settle in a little bit, or you might find that you’re still freaked out. Either way, you will be better able to make a decision once you’ve had a few days to process the information and think hard about what’s best for all of you. 

Post # 4
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Im not a religious person I am catholic however we dont attend church and i just went through a really rough month losing my mother in law and cousin within a the same week…but the best advice anyone has ever given me was “God doesnt give you anything you cant handle.” Not sure if that helps you but it did kinda help me. Good Luck

Post # 5
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

There is this thread that was started a few days back.

I honestly haven’t read it all but I know that there were some great words of advice on this sort of situation




I was a teen mother and I can say that keeping my daughter was the best thing that has ever happened to me. But that is just me. I am sure there are others who will say aborting was the best thing they ever did. So there are those happy on both sides of the fence.

What I can say is that whatever choice you make, make sure it is the right choice for YOU. Do not let anyone change your mind for you. Do not let anyone judge you.

And I can say that I personally am here if you need someone to talk to and I am sure there are tons of other bees who would be willing to listen too.

Good luck!

Post # 6
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

You said that you feel like you should be happy, but instead you are scared, nervous, etc. This is COMPLETELY normal! Even if you are trying to have a baby, most people will feel scared, nervous, stressed, etc after they get that positive pregnancy test. So the fact that you weren’t trying make these feelings even more normal.

This also doesn’t mean that you WON’T be happy in the future. Once you work through the initial feelings, you might become very happy about the pregnancy. 

Also, I don’t think anyone is fully ready to have a baby. Babies change a lot, so it is normal to not be ready for things to change in your life.

Only you and your boyfriend can decide what you want to do… but no matter what, we are happy to help here on the boards any way we can! GOOD LUCK!

Post # 7
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@luv2bme: oh gosh that is so normal… the majority of people feel that way when they get pregnant even if they have been trying to get pregnant! Just give it some time and good luck 🙂

Post # 8
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I just wanted to add that I had been trying and my pregnancy was planned, and when I found out I was pregnant I freaked out. I felt nervous, scared, overwhelled, full of doubt…..

Just like other people said….give it a little bit if time to sink in so you can see what you really feel about it. 

Post # 9
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@luv2bme:  Do you have a close friend you can confide in?  Or even your mom?  I think talking it out with someone who knows you well will help you sort out your feelings and help you feel less afraid.  The hive is always happy to help, but I think it would be good for you to talk to someone in person.

What you’re feeling right now is totall normal!  Give it a few days. You have many options and you and your boyfriend will make the decision that is right for you at this point in time.  Good luck to you both – hang in there!

Post # 10
17 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just give it time, its overwhelming to think I am going to have a child and comfortably process it immediately.

I am 25 and have a 1.5 year old. and some days I still feel the same way. How can I do this right?

Children change us in ways we didnt know we wanted to change 🙂


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