I need advice about wedding planning.

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
Member
42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

bluefrog:  Welcome! just because you are not stressed out doesn’t mean that anything is wrong. We all have different coping skills. Not all brides fall apart at the seams and agonize over the color of a rehearsal dinner dress or how they are going to look great at a surprise shower.

You weren’t brought up with a vision of a fairytale weddding and that also is not a bad thing.

Are you working from a checklist? That can be amazingly helpful to keep on track.

Is there anything in specific that we can help with? Do you have a color palette or a theme? What ideas do you need help implementing?

Post # 3
Member
1749 posts
Bumble bee

First things first, welcome to Weddingbee! 

If dealing with the vendors and getting the dress was not stressful, I’d say that’s a good thing. Stress may be normal in wedding planning, but it isn’t mandatory. If someone can manage to get all of those tasks done without much or any trouble, that’s a good thing. 

You say that you’re miserable. Are you miserable just because you don’t have enthusiastic people around you and you’re a little confused about the process, or is it possible that the source of your misery and disinterest is actually something else? For example, are you having the kind of wedding that you actually want? 

Tell us more about what kind of wedding you want, what kind of wedding you’re planning, and what kind of projects you have in mind. We’ll be able to provide better help with more details. 

Post # 4
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809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

First, congrats and welcome to the bee! Be happy and thankful you are not stressed! Wedding planning is supposed to be a fun easy process not a stressful one. I was very stressed about finances at one point and it was starting to ruin the magic of what the day was for me. As for aupport, thats what wedding bee is here for! My mom is so uninterested in my wedding and it hurt my feelings for awhile. I just had to learn to get over that part of it. As for your your wedding, is this what you wanted? A big wedding with family and the works? If this is truly not what you want that might be why you are so unhappy.

Post # 6
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

You said that you’re having a Jewish ceremony. Are you not Jewish? 

If you aren’t Jewish, then I understand why you’re FMIL isn’t recognizing you and your fiancée as a couple. That doesn’t excuse all of her behavior if she’s been unjustifiably rude or nasty, but I understand why she’s doing things the way she is. 

Are you in contact with your FMIL a lot? Do you do most of the communication with her when it comes to the wedding? If you are, that needs to stop. Your fiancée needs to deal with his mother. You talking to her will not help things. 

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