(Closed) I need advice deciding on the carat amount in this ring!!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Downtown 202

If you love it, it doesn’t matter the carat size! And if you change your mind in the future, you can always upgrade.

Post # 4
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Go with the 1/4ct if you love it. Mine is somewhere between 1/4 and 1/3 ct and I love mine. I’m a size 6.5, and my fingers are oddly long, but I still think it looks great on my finger.

I don’t understand why people feel the need to judge others by their ring size. You’re the one wearing it and if the 1/2ct feels too big on your finger, go with the 1/4.

Here’s mine on my hand (long creepy fingers are curled under in the pic, but you can see the way it looks on the width of my finger).

Post # 5
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

You can always upgrade the stone later. Maybe for an anniversary? Follow your heart and don’t let other peoples opinions change your mind. Pick the one you love 🙂

Post # 6
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I had a little 0.16ct as a promise ring we got before we talked serious.  I have a size 4.75 finger, here it is on me 3 years agoThis is the one I have now…its never as big as you think once you get used to it.  Look at it  again in the store before you decide.  Its easier in person

Post # 7
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s all up to you and what you want/feel comfortable with.  If you feel 1/2 carat is big on your finger, that’s probably your answer!  If you’re really unsure find some cheapy fakes in the same size and wear each around the house a few days and see how it really feels to have a ring that size.

If you’re worried about what people think and someone asks to see it or are obviously looking at it say “He got me exactly what I wanted!”, I’m sure you’ll say it with genuine enthusiasm :).  I didn’t want anything over half a carat and my ring finger is size 6 (so it’s not tight in summer).  So I can imagine 1/4 being great on a size 4!


Post # 8
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I think that if it is in your budget and you are even thinkin about it now then you will prob regret your decision sooner rather then later. SO go for it and get the bigger carat…you will be happy …just MHO

Post # 10
483 posts
Helper bee

Bigger isn’t always better ! But I do feel like they “shrink”  … 

Post # 11
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Go for the smaller one. I wear a 4.5 and my center stone is .25ct (with another .25ct in the halo and on the band). It looks great on my tiny fingers; anything bigger looks weird.

Post # 12
33 posts
  • Wedding: January 2000

@Flipflops17:  I think you should choose whatever you are comfortable with now and later you can add some bands to make the stone “pop” and look larger.

Post # 14
2778 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Flipflops17:  I like the idea of a PP to get a cz in the two sizes  and see which one you like more.  But comparing the two images online (if this the same style you posted here http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-need-help-deciding-on-the-carat-weight-of-this-ring)  there isnt that sizable of a difference, especially with the side stones, so unless you really want the 1/2 I say stick with the 1/4 there’s no sense in paying $600 more to make other people happy.  I say do whichever you feel most comfortable with and don’t let other people cloud your judgement.  Chances are even if you go for the 1/2 carat people will still say something mean and then you’ll be mad you spent the extra money when you really wanted the 1/4.  We’ve heard of all kinds of nasty comments no matter what size diamond you have.  The women on the bee who have gemstones have been told IRL their engagement is not official, women with 2+ carats have had IRL people say nasty things about how big the ring is, I think one bee even posted that her family was upset and wouldn’t even look at her ring (approx 2 carat) but looked at her cousins who was in the same room because they thought her ring was more “appropriate.”  So just pick something your happy with since you are going to be the one wearing it and enjoying it. 🙂


Post # 15
2738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Dainty rings have such charm!! I really appreciate their beauty and delicate look. I used to not wear any rings at all and when we got engaged, I wasn’t sure what route to go for. I am certainly not comfortable with one big diamond that costs a fortune. It’s not a look for me and I wouldn’t want to spend a ridiculous amount on a ring. I’d always be hiding it away when on the subway and places like that. 

I do love a large ring though, I found out while trying on many. I don’t like an overload of sparkle and I like the look of metal too. So I ended up finding the perfect ring for me. A 0.3 ct center stone surrounded by two halos of diamonds. Kind of like a flower design 🙂 The platinum shank is just pure metal, which keeps the look classy in my opinion. I added bling by choosing an eternity diamond band to go with it. Love my set!!! Now they are soldered together. 

Post # 16
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you love the smaller size, go for it.  

As long as you are happy, who cares what anyone thinks!

Post # 17
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My fiance just proposed and he gave me a perfect .75 solitare for my size 7 finger. I absolutely love how dainty it looks. It doesn’t matter what other people think as long as you love it. You are the one that has to wear it every day.

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