I need advice/opinions on if we should move forward with a rental house (long)

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It sounds like he was overwhelmed with the pressure of updating the house and it’s possible they are tight on cash since I’m assuming he’s paying two mortgages and took a loss when the prior tenants left. I would just continue on and hope everything goes smoothly from here on out.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s really disturbing, and I wouldn’t have a good feeling about moving in there either after an overreaction like that. Would you be saving any money on rent by moving? Were there any other big factors in wanting to move? It almost doesn’t even seem worth it at this point. Who knows how he would react in the future to an actual problem. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

I would never rent from family/ friends. In the end, it is a business transaction and should be treated as such.

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

BakerBee16:  Hmmm….is his blow up consistent with his personality?  Or do you think he may have just been having a bad day?  He did come back to you and appologize.  

If your DH generally has a good relationship with his brother and trusts him I’d go for it and proceed with your plan to move in.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You don’t have a contract or anything in writing yet. Just back out of the arrangement and tell them it’s not going to work out. You never want to be in a housing situation where you’re afraid to report a problem. I understand he’s stressed, and many people handle stress poorly. But this is still supposed to be a business transaction.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

BakerBee16:  honestly, as much as it seemed like a good deal at first, I would never to business like that with family.  It’s one thing if it was a vacation house type deal, but at least in my experiences, it never ends well.  People get angry over stuff and money and it can tear families apart.  Maybe if you don’t sign a contract right now, but do a 6 month or something and continue to look for other places while you are living there would be a better option?

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

BakerBee16:  A classic example of why I would never get involved in any sort of contratual relationship with relatives. If he behaves like this before you even move in, what do you think he will be like when you have to deal with him as a landlord?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am of the opinion that everything happens for a reason, and the way your BIL reacted may be a blessing in disguise. At least you haven’t moved in and invested more of your money to where you’d feel like you have to deal with this kind of behavior, or worse. Even though your husband really wants to move into a house, this doesn’t sound like a good situation and I would keep looking.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ugh, that is a mess. I’m sorry 🙁

Does your husband not think there’ll be any issues like this in the future? If you’re not even moved in yet and your BIL is already acting like this, like you’re NOT even family, it really doesn’t look good. I also don’t think he has grounds to sue you when there’s nothing in writing. Do you think he would really go through with it? Or is this his way of threatening and bullying you guys into moving? You and your husband know him best.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

But with BIL, you honestly never know. And that’s what scares me the most.

This is enough for me, and should be enough for your husband too! I would put my foot down. You both need to be comfortable with decisions you make and make them together, especially for something this important. 

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