Post # 1
My boyfriend recently proposed. The only problem? I don’t like the ring! I love rings with side accent stones or even 3 stone rings. We had gone to several jewelry stores and tried rings on, and I had shown him tons of photos of rings that I like. I wasn’t going to let him go shopping without knowing what I like! I’ve also told him plenty of times that I am not a fan of solitaire rings, I just don’t like how they look on my hands. So when he went to the store, he let the saleswoman convince him that a .5 ct solitaire tiffany would look best on my tiny hands. So thats what he got. After 3 months of them custom making the ring to fit my tiny finger, he proposed. He asks me all the time if I still like the ring, and mentioned that if I didn’t he would be heart broken! I could never tell him that I don’t like it, but its not at all what I would have picked and doesn’t suit my hands. I just don’t like showing it to people.
I was thinking I could just wait until we get wedding rings and just get a whole separate ring that I pick out, and then just wear the ering on my right hand. But I feel like that would hurt his feelings. I have looked into ring wraps and LOVE them, but unfortunately it would be very very difficult to find a wrap that would fit my ring, since it has a cathedral mount a wrap most likely wouldn’t fit flatly over the band, and its a slightly thick band. The only enhancer that would fit it is a guard, but I dont like the look of ring guards, especially on my skinny fingers. So I am stuck, no idea what to do.
Post # 3
@petitebride6: Could you suggest to him that instead of getting a separate wedding band, you reset the diamond in a more elaborate setting? So you don’t have to worry about “two rings sliding around”.
Post # 4
Do you have a picture of it on you?
Post # 5
I don’t want to seem harsh or mean either but at least you have one =) I lost mine and now i would love to have any ring and i would show it off proudly. maybe if you give it time you will learn to love it. you would definitely show us because i doubt it looks bad =)
Post # 6
What a horrible predicament to be in. 🙁 This is why I’m happy my boyfriend and I chose our exact ring together! Neither of us have to worry about this very problem.
Not sure what to tell you… there isn’t much you can do now. Your choices are either to learn to love the ring you have, maybe get a wedding band that would make it more your style (surely there are enhancers that would work for your ring somewhere out there?) or try and gently tell him you don’t like the style, emphasizing that you love HIM and want to marry HIM. In the end, I think he should want you to have a ring you love!
Post # 7
I actually understand your predicament. I have a solitaire which isn’t my first choice either.
You can either get a band with more bling, and/or upgrade the setting at a later date.
I actually found I didn’t really know what type of setting I wanted until I had been engaged for a while, so the later option works out well for me.
Post # 8
I completely understand your predicament. I too am not fans of solitaire rings, but they look AMAZING with eternity wedding bands. I almost got a solitaire ring just so it would look good with its eternity wedding band. And I think cathedral bands look good with wedding bands. Just a thought!
Post # 9
If I were in your situation. and I really hated the ring, I would ask if we could pick a more elaborate mount and have it set instead of getting a wedding band.
But… I’m pretty easy to please. As long as it wasn’t hideous, I would be happy.
Post # 10
I think having it reset in the wedding band is a good idea, but I would probably wait a while to mention this until we are looking at wedding bands. Hopefully that idea won’t hurt his feelings after he spent so long getting it custom made. I think I’m going to do a lot more investigating on whether or not we can have a ring wrap customized to fit it. I don’t at all hate it, it is a lovely ring, just not my style. I think I’m more or less disappointed that after all the effort I made to make sure he knew my taste, he let the stupid jeweler convince him otherwise.
Post # 11
As much as you might not want to hear I think you’ve got to suck it up. Mention in passing one day how you plan to wear only your wedding band when you get it and that you think it’s classier that way but will obviously sport the E-ring just perhaps on a different finger or only on special occasions.
Tell him you’ve always imgained only wearing the wedding band alone and have some reasons why you like it. “Simple” elegant etc…
Then pick the wedding band of your dreams!
BTW- the ring looks just fine on your finger, so it’s not like it’s ugly or doesn’t look right on your finger so don’t worry about that.
Post # 12
@petitebride6: Count me in with the people who say to learn to love it.
This is not a predicament, dilemma or problem unless you make it one. Get some perspective – of all the problems you could possibly have, having a diamond engagement ring from the man you love can’t possibly rate very high can it?
Post # 13
I was lucky that we picked mine out together, because I’m incredibly picky and surely would have hated anything he brought home. That being said, I would suck it up and learn to love it. It’s just a symbol, after all. I went the first year of my engagement with no ring at all, and that was fine too.
Also, is it possible that he got a solitaire because he couldn’t afford additional stones? I’ve never been to Tiffany (I’m not sure we even have them here) but I know it’s expensive. I have a three-stone myself, and it doubled our budget. Just get a pretty wedding band to complement it and I’m sure it will grow on you.
Post # 14
How about getting a ring enhancer? You can get one that makes your ring to look like a 3 stone one.
Post # 15
For what it’s worth, I think that is a truly beautiful ring; however, I am a fan of solitaires. Best of luck in trying on wedding bands and/or a new engagement ring. It will all work out for the best in the end 🙂
Post # 16
It’s your attitude towards it that needs changing.