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So sorry you are going through this. Weddings really do bring out the crazy in a lot of people! I had a falling out with my MOH and 1 bridesmaid not long after my 1st marriage because of behavior like this. MOH started talking about me behind my back and trying to turn our other friends against me. We weere like sisters for 10 years and then she dumped our friendship with no explanation, conversation, nothing.
You situation is different because this is happening during your wedding planning and you're both getting married. Your true friends will be there for you and the ones that pull away - well, wouldn't you rather find out now that they are not your true friends? You need to focus on those closest to you and on your FI. Don't take energy away from FI and the big day you're planning to participate in this game she's playing. I would keep your plans under wraps as much as possible and keep most things a surprise. If you give it any energy at all it will continue. Hope you are feeling beter soon!
Surround yourself with people that care about you and your wedding. Write down all the wonderful things about your FI and your relationship. Get some wedding mags, and just forget her. Honestly, if you read some of the other posts about serious problems like people being out of work etc and this girl is just creating unecessary drama! Be thankful, it's so sad that this lady is so petty and wants to bring so much negativity into such a beautiful time. Don't give in, don't let her have that control.
MrsMarch is right. Stick with the support you know. Know that changing dates and locations to make your wedding better only goes ot make everyone who is going happier, and they will know that. Pick what you love, and know why you do it. It's not her wedding, so it's not hers to ruin. Much love lady!
Gosh I love you bees. My classmates probably think I'm a dork because I'm smiling so big! You give the best feel good advice :D
Oooh! Toxic Wedding friends! GROSS! I just stopped calling and answering the calls of my frienemy that does the whole comparing weddings thing. However, we live across the country from one another, so it's a lot easier to do. I say, keep your eye on the prize! Make it your day, no matter what the heck she's doing (I swear, this would be a much better message encoded in profanity, but I'm keeping it clean...) and keep being friends with your friends, no matter what stinky plans she has. (:
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I know I've written to you all about my, um... sorta crazy toxic ex-friend before.
Well, I know that in her normal competitive spirit, she's trying to make (through our mutual friends) me feel bad about my wedding--by comparing hers and talking hers up.
I just need motivation to not fall into the trap! We're in the middle of potentially switching venues (need to hear back from the one we really want!) so all our design, decor etc is up in the air... I might even have to reprint our save the dates! It's so hard to not feel hurt, sad and worried about what our friends will think. I don't want my wedding to be LAME!
So hive, I turn to you--I know the answer from most will be to just "block her out," but it's hard when people I rarely see keep telling me what she's said, you know? She's already convinced my best friend here (one of her roommates) to ditch plans several times and basically not hang out with me, and she's working on another girl with whom I'm great friends, because she's jealous of she and I talking wedding. What to do?