(Closed) I Need Help!!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am surprised that some of them already raised the issue of gifts. You are certainly going above and beyond duty in paying for their hair and makeup.

I would probably get them either the cosmetic bag or the robe, just so you have something to give them at the rehearsal dinner.

You are right. Many people will either not know that you are doing that, or not know that it is not the norm, so for appearances sake i would get them a token something else.

As for the shower gifts, you have to let that go. Hosting a shower costs money- in some cases more than the gift they would have purchased otherwise.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Making sure your bridesmaids make up and hair is done on your wedding day doesn’t count as a gift, I’m sorry. I totally understand that it costs money, but ultimately you are the only one who benefits from it when you get the pictures back. If you feel some of the bridesmaids aren’t pulling their weight, you may want to communicate that with them, but the dress/shoes/travel/time/energy that bridesmaids put in does really deserve some sort of token of your appreciation. Hopefully this doesn’t come off as harsh, I’m just trying to help and be honest!

Post # 4
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Making sure your bridesmaids make up and hair is done on your wedding day doesn’t count as a gift, I’m sorry. I totally understand that it costs money, but ultimately you are the only one who benefits from it when you get the pictures back. If you feel some of the bridesmaids aren’t pulling their weight, you may want to communicate that with them, but the dress/shoes/travel/time/energy that bridesmaids put in does really deserve some sort of token of your appreciation. Hopefully this doesn’t come off as harsh, I’m just trying to help and be honest!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

ya i also found it weird that they brought up the idea of gifts. if i was a BM and the bride paid for my hair and makeup, i would be beyond thrilled!  i would just get them something small, one thing, not both. basically whatever u can afford.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow! You really are in a predicament! But seriously, to “expect” a gift is just in bad taste. You don’t agree to be a BM in anticipation of a wonderful gift!! You do it because you love the bride! If it were me, I would getthe salon where hair and make up is being done to give you a gift certificate that you can wrapup all nice and pretty and stuff in a gift bag. Then present the “gift” to the BMs at the Rehearsal Dinner (for everyone to see) and then explain that you have a fun filled morning of primping a pampering planned where they can use their gift card to ge bautified on the morning of the wedding. (and

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