Post # 1
I am a Harry Potter fan. Always have been, since i first picked up a HP book. He has been a large part of my life for the past seven years. So naturally, i wanted to include him in my wedding somehow. My problem is my mother. She believes Harry Potter is equal to Satan and it will curse my wedding to have him included.
I originally thought to buy a used copy of Book 6, my fave, and hollow it out to use as my ring pillow/box. My mom shot that to hell in seconds. So, i thought, why not pick a quote and put it on a tiny bubble charm that maybe she wont notice?
Issue is, she is helping me get dressed on the day of. So i need some suggestions on where and how to hide this charm so that she wont see it and pitch a fit. Any suggestions?
BTW: Im making a charm with the quote “After all this time? Always” from book 7
Post # 3
@MrsWinTraining2014: She should really get over it. It’s your wedding. But I would think the two places to pin it would be your garter or bouquet. Or have it sewn into your dress between layers where it won’t be overly noticeable.
It’s such an inocuous quote…. you could also fib about what it’s from.
Post # 4
Has she read the books? I don’t think she’d know that the quote was from it.
You could always have a ring box made on etsy with the quote on it.. or paint it on yourself!
Post # 5
@springbride23: telling my mother to “get over it” usually does not have good consequences, LOL. i could look at my dress and see if there is a place i could sew it in
Post # 6
You are getting married. I suggest you stand up to your Mom and have the wedding you want.
Post # 7
@MrsWinTraining2014: Is she going to open it up and read it? Highly doubt it.
Tell her it’s a love quote (but not from where) if she asks and then drop the subject.
FI and I are using tiny glass charms (I got them from Joann’s in the bead section) to write little love/marriage wishes to attach to our handfasting cord. Once the cord is tied (and we’re married), we can’t take it apart unless we split up – we’ll never know what the other wrote.
I would attach it to my bouquet, maybe with a few other charms.
If you really want, have an extra charm on hand and ask your mom to write in a little wish for your marriage, as well. Then attach it to your bouquet with the other(s). She’ll be so concentrated on having her own wishes on there she’ll forget about the other ones.
My real opinion, though: it’s your wedding, you could walk down the aisle dressed like freaking Hedwig and she really shouldn’t be able to do squat about it. 😛
[ETA] You can find different styles of “glass bottle charms” on Etsy for a good price, usually in sets of 10 or so. I would have bought mine there but I didn’t want a ton of charms all over the place on this thing – I’m planning on hanging it up on the wall and wanted it to be timeless(ish).
Post # 8
@MrsWinTraining2014: I really don’t think she will notice that quote is from the HP book. Try to relax, and enjoy your big day!
Post # 9
You shouldn’t have to hide any details about YOUR wedding, if you want it – hell with what others think … go for it!
Post # 10
@bdockery: i shouldnt have to, but if i want to do it, i have to hide it because my mom will never allow it to happen.
thanks for all the responses
Post # 11
@MrsWinTraining2014: My mom is exactly the same way, so I understand what you’re going through. Maybe a charm bracelet? Or pinned to the inside of your dress? If she doesn’t know HP, she certainly wouldn’t recognize the deathly hallows, so you could use that.
Post # 12
She has watched the last movie of Harry Potter (when it first came out, after i begged and pleaded with her to just give it a chance and see that its not ALL about magic) so she would recognize the Deathly Hallows symbol. She hasnt read the book though, and FYI her watching the movie did not work, she is still against it
Post # 13
@MrsWinTraining2014: Could you explain your mother’s objections? Religious? Childish? There are so many levels that people scream about HP (all ridiculous in my opinion) Maybe if we knew more, we could help you more.
Also, if they are religious, are you having a religious ceromony?
Post # 14
@Misswhowedding: Religious. My mom is the daughter of a preacher so any mention of witchcraft immediately gets her back up, despite the fact that its a fictional book. Yes, i am having a religious ceremony, totally centered around God.
Post # 15
Honestly, if you’re old enough to get married, you’re old enough to have whatever you want in the wedding. Make the charm and sew it inside the dress, or have it on a piece of paper in a locket, or make a huge banner across the outside of the church – as an adult, you get to make your own decisions.
And even though she saw the last movie, I doubt she’d remember that one specific quote you picked.
Post # 16
@MrsWinTraining2014: I get it and understand. I’m a twi fan (I get enough crap from it but love the story line more then the movie) my FI loves cruel temptation and we are adding lil elements from both movies to our day. Personally it isn’t your mother’s busness where the quote came from… it’s not an obvious HP quote. I’m not telling anyone really why our recessional song is colorblind or the quote that would be used or where they are from some ppl might get it but others wouldn’t.
But to the main question you can do as one of the pp sugguested and buy little bottles from a craft store and make several charms. You can write your quote in one, have your mother write a note and put in another and had you FH write a third and hang. If she ask what the third one has tell her you wrote personal vows or incouragement for yourself. Or take the HP book but put a pretty wrapper over it in your wedding colors as a book cover and use it as the idea you had for your ring holder?? Or find an owl charm to attach to your bouquet!! If your having your rings engraved you can put the quote in you and your FI rings noone would know and it would be apart of you forever (I’m putting a phrase in FI ring that we say to each other I already have it tattooed on me & my wedding band is thin so it will be just be his ring).