Have you been checked out to make sure there are no thyroid/hormonal issues? If your body is working against you, it’s going to be even more frustrating that usual to lose weight.
Besides that, I recommend four things:
1) Finding something active that makes you passionate. For me, it’s a combination of horseback riding and just being active and fit in general. When I know I’m going to work out later in the night, or that I’m fueling my body rather than eating because it sounds good, I make my food decisions better. I know that bad foods sap my energy, and I don’t want to wind up lagging when I’m working with a hyped up three year old mare!
2) Learn about food. I mean really take the time to figure out the difference between organic and non, what’s in frozen and processed foods, what your body needs, etc. It’s easy to load up on low calorie “diet” foods, but most of them are just as bad for you as sweets, if not more so. Calories aren’t the only thing that count, and when you’re eating right you shouldn’t have to count them. This means keeping the right food around the house, and only the right food. It also means paying attention to what you’re drinking – if you stop drinking pop (not sure if you do!) it’ll work wonders for you! Same with daily lattes, excessive alcohol, sugary fruit juices, etc.
3) Make a commitment. Get someone important in your life to be committed with you – not to a diet plan, or a number on a scale, but to being healthy in general. It’s bigger than just taking the stairs once in awhile, and if you can sign up for a bootcamp, or a marathon, etc, you’ll have a real, attainable goal.
4) Cheat sometimes, but cheat smart, and don’t beat yourself up over it. I love to bake, and I don’t stop myself – I just bake from scratch, don’t buy sweets from bakeries, and don’t bake unless I have a good reason to. Sometimes it’s a small change – R and I used to get Whole Foods pizzas some Wednesdays. They’re $8 for a huge pizza, and we’d end up having two gigantic slices each, and then eating the rest over the next few days – it was awful, and affected my whole day. Now if we’re going to have pizza, we get single slices. We rarely crave it, and get it maybe every 4 months. Don’t let one “cheat item” throw off your whole day!
I hope this helps – I’ve struggled with weight and fitness my whole life, and for the past two years have finally been consistently healthy. I’m not stick thin, and I still get self-conscious, but I feel energetic and aware of my body. I don’t feel helpless or huge. It’s wonderful!
I hope this helps!