(Closed) I need help ladies! FI doesn’t want the wedding gift I picked out for him.

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well.. if he does not want a wrist watch, what about a stylish pocket watch?  They make some beautiful “high tech” yet still elegant watches! 

It’s tough to think up other things so I totally see your predicament!

Can you make him something personal from you that would mean a lot?  Like a book or poem you wrote? 

Maybe if you get him something small that you really put your heart into, you’d feel okay with giving him a tech gift with it?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree, get him what he wants and also give him a small token that means something more to you.

My FI wants a Kindle…so I’m in the same boat as you, trying to decide something sweet to go with it!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with PP…get him something that maybe ties in to your relationship the morning of the wedding…and then maybe have the Wii set up and ready to go for when you guys go back home? You can take a picture of the Wii and inclue it in a nice heartfelt, letter maybe?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Eh, I’m leaning towards the watch.  I agree that a tech gift does not parallel an engagement ring because it won’t last.  And I’ve had those gifts that I didn’t want but came to really really appreciate.  I mean – who doesn’t like a gift?  The only problem is if he’s really expecting that Droid – you might want to break it to him that, honey no way am I getting you a gadget just to make sure he’s not disapointed.

I actually got a gadget as a wedding gift ๐Ÿ™‚ and love it – but I also love that I have an engagement ring that I can/will keep.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If he has specifically told you he doesn’t want a watch, definitely don’t get him a watch. He will wonder why on earth you got it for him after he already directly told you he didn’t want one, and then it will sit in a drawer for the rest of his life.

Why not get a nice weekend away for the two of you instead? Do something that is less tangible but just as meaningful.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I love the watch as an idea, but I don’t wear a watch either, and the nice one my mom gave me just sits around the house. So it doesn’t really work as a present and I wouldn’t do it. The problem with anything electronic is that it’s outdated in 3 years – not really a good representation of a long lasting relationship. I’m thinking something like tickets to a ballgame for him and a friend – the event doesn’t last, but the memories do. Fishing gear? Tools? Anything that lasts.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i would make it clear to him that there’s no way you’re getting him a techie gadget so he isn’t too disappointed.  i think you’re right in this, though.  the wii will be obsolete in a year or so.  the gift should be something that will last a lifetime.

pocket watch was the first thing i thought when i read your post, though.  it’s classy and it doesn’t need to be worn (so many guys just have a thing against wearing something on their wrists).

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

I totally understand why you don’t want to get him a gadget and want the lasting sentiment of the engraved watch… however… you also want to get your FI a present they he will like.  And, quite frankly, you already know what those choices are.  

If you really think of it – there isn’t much that really ‘lasts’ these days.  I’d get him the Droid (can you engrave the back?) and then get him something that you feel is more lasting (favorite photo of the two of you? something for the wedding day – ie: cuff links….  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

What’s his job?  A watch can also be a useful thing and its no terrible thing to have it lying in a drawer till he finds, hmm, I could really use a watch. 

I’m speaking as someone who did not want diamond earings as a graduation present – for multiple very good reasons and argued strenously.  But, my mom and grandma got me the diamond earings – and I love them and am really pleased to have them. They’re one of those staples that are just very useful to have.

Also, since he isn’t very sentimental is it a huge deal if his gift doesn’t make him super happy?  I mean, he’s marrying you, everything else are just bonuses.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m sorry I don’t have any alternate gift ideas (I have always been TERRIBLE at buying presents), but I agree with those who say you should definitely not get him a watch.  Not even a pocket watch, imo.  I think the idea of having a nice watch is really classy, but most people don’t want to wear them anymore when they can just as easily look at the time on their cellphone, ipod, or other gadget that remains with them 24/7.  Those things serve multiple functions, unlike a watch, so they are really convenient and much less difficult to lose.  If your guy is of the tech-obsessed sort, then I am sure he has plenty of gadgets that he regularly keeps on him which will allow him to see the time.  Things like the cell phone aren’t going anywhere, so it really renders the watch obsolete.

Sorry I don’t have any suggestions, but I did want to share my thoughts on the gift of a watch!

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