- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I had a baby at the beginning of April. I have two cats and neither of them are dealing with the baby very well. Cat #1 is Jack. He is about 4 years old. DH got him before I met him so he is really special to DH. He is a special needs kitty and requires a lot of work. He is blind in one eye and missing the other and has a lot of other issues with his digestive system and bone structure. He is easily scared and becomes aggressive really quickly because of that. Every since the baby was born he has been pacing and crying in our room at night (baby sleeps in her own room). He has also been puking and peeing in her room. He is too afraid to come near her right now which I am happy about because I am afraid he will try to bite her or scratch her.
Cat #2 is Sandy. She is also about 4 years old. DH and I adopted her from a shelter together about 2 and a half years ago. She is a pretty normal kitty. She loves attention and loves to play. She really doesn’t like the baby. She will atually bat at her if she thinks we aren’t looking and has already scratched her leg once. She also tries to scratch up all of our baby stuff including the crib. She used to be my little shadow and follow me around the house and always cuddle up to me. Now she wants nothing to do with me. When I am holding the baby, she bats at my feet or at my head when I am on the couch and runs right in front of me when I am walking. I try to give her love when I am not holding the baby or when she is up in her crib napping, but she wants absolutely nothing to do with me. She will cuddle DH, but will bat at my hand if I try to pet her.
Also, both cats are long haired and stressed out so they are shedding like crazy (not to mention it is summer and hot). So I am going crazy with the amount of cat hair and puke and hairballs I have to pick up each day. Plus having to clean up pee all the time. We are really trying to help them adjust but it has been 3 months and they are still doing the same things. DH and I brush them 2-3 times a week to help with the hair and to give them some love and attention and we also try to set aside play time with them at night after DD has gone to bed.
Giving up our cats is not an option. We love them too much and just couldn’t do that to them. Especially not Jack. I am just looking for some advice on how to help them become more comfortable with DD. Will it just get batter with time? I am so worried about them hurting her.