(Closed) I NEED HELP on choosing BM and MOH!!!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: I NEED HELP on choosing BM and MOH!!!
    Sister : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Sheep : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Zebra : (14 votes)
    38 %
    Horse : (9 votes)
    24 %
    Deer : (5 votes)
    14 %
    Other - Please explain~ : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Do you really have to have a MOH? Regarding you sister though I’d have her as a BM but not a MOH I think you’ll expect things from her that she won’t live up to, based upon her previous interactions with you.

    Post # 4
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Maybe Zebra as MOH and Horse(if she’s up to it!) and sister as bm.

    Post # 6
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would choose these ladies based on the love you have for them and not based on who can “help out” the most or who can throw the best party. Those are the absolute wrong reasons to choose your bridesmaids. You may also want to have a good think over what you expect from these ladies in terms of parties, DIY help, etc. None of them are required to do these things for you, so expecting too much of them will cause stress and disappointment. Therefore you should remove these from the equation as you make your choices.

    Post # 7
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    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Who do you love the most? Make her your MOH.

    Post # 8
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @fishbone:  This.

    Also, just immediately eliminate anyone that you aren’t close with.  Sister, Sheep, Deer, Cat = out.

    Post # 10
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    Their personalities (mellow, introverted, etc) and whether or not they can through a party really have nothing to do with it. You should pick who you love the most and who you can see yourself being close with for years and years to come.

    One of them had a fiance that passed awway months ago and you didnt know about it? why would you even consider her since its obvious you must not be that close.

    And for what its worth-all my BM’s live out of state. They havent helped me plan parties, or make favors or any of that stuff. But they love me, they listen to me when I need a vent session, and they support all my decisions. Thats why I choose them.

    Post # 12
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    @iMechie:  Your fiance is there to “delegate responsibilties” to. Not your bridesmaids.

    Post # 13
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    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Your bridesmaids should be who you want standing up there at the alter supporting you as you get married.  It’s not about who can do the most projects.  You can have your mother, FMIL, any other family members help with projects if need be!

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Why would it ve not fair to ask people outside the bridal party to lend a hand, but acceptable to delegate to the bridal party without asking first? And if someone doesn’t have time/money/whatever to do whatever favor for you, are they less of a friend and therefore less worthy of a role in the bridal party?

    The bridesmaids are NOT your interns!

    Post # 15
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    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @iMechie:  I totally disagree with this. It’s nice if your BMs help you out, but that’s not why they are there — they are there because you want them to stand up with you at the wedding, and, if needed, they can help support you emotionally. Anything else they do is on a volunteer basis.

    I didn’t have a bridal party… but I had more offers to help than I knew what to do with! If I was a better delegator, I would have taken more people up on them! 

    Post # 16
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    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @iMechie:  Sorry, just saw your other comment. That sucks… and it might be worth trying to convince your fiance more on that point! Alternatively, have you considered not having a bridal party, then? Trust me, it still works… and there’s a hell of a lot less drama!

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