- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Ok – I’ll try to be brief but I know this is semi long (sorrie!!!). I’m a tom boy, I went to an engineering school…all my close friends are guys. I have very few girlfriends (see listed below) and I have 1 older (married) sister. My fiance is opposing having “Man of Honor” and “Bridesmen” (my best friend died in an accident a few years back anyway…=( )
I know everyone is going to say “You got a sister, you HAVE to make her your BM…” Well, my relationship with my sister is “eh…”, I’d been trying HARD to improve our relationship the past few years…like a month before her wedding, I practically had to beg her to be one of the bridesmaid because I wanted to help out and I want to be there for her since I’m her only sister. She did make me a bridesmaid, I did help out a lot before and during her wedding…I even spent a couple of weeks making her her wedding present that she loves….but I never felt appreciated…she didn’t even invite me to her “Post Wedding Picture Viewing Party” — She invited all BM and her MOH, all the GM and BM…but not me, I was hurt…
My fiancé is at the point where he tells me “Your sister will never appreciate what you do for her, maybe it’s time to give up and accept the way she is. You don’t need to run the extra mile for her.”
Anyway – so here’s the list of my female friends…not sure who to ask to be BM. I’m having a small wedding so I’m only picking 3 including MOH (if there’s one). [Sorry for picking all “animals” — Don’t want to use Letters and fake name gets confusing…]
Sister – We were never close. The day I got engaged, her Facebook status was “It’s overrated…” (Later she deleted it cause everyone was asking “Why??”) She thinks my wedding will be cheap because I want to DIY most of the things in my wedding…But if I don’t make her a BM, mom might give me hell (Ofcourse, sister is mom’s favorite and it shows…big time…)
Sheep – Friend of fiancé, we became friends but never really close, she reeeally wants to be a BM. She offers to help out but she lives like an hr away…hard to hang out. On top of that, she’s kinda introverted…She doesn’t know how to plan/throw a party…more like the “Plan it and I’ll go along” type of person.
Zebra – Friend from college, her husband is also a friend of my fiancé (her hubby might also be groomsmen). We are good friends and got closer the past year but she lives in another state, not sure how much can she really help out. She’s kind mellow and introverted.
Horse – Good friend from HS, we recently reconnected and found her fiancé died a few months back. However, she’s been very helpful to me and she said she would love to be a BM and help me out. But she has financial issues where she might be working long hours so not sure how committed can she be.
Deer – Good friend that hangs out once in awhile. She got TONS of friends…very popular and pretty. We get along well but never got close. When we see each other we’re like sisters, but I always feel like I’m just one of her many friends. Great personality but not very reliable at times. Knows how to throw parties.
Cat – Friend from college. I once treated her as a close friend, till I realized she only comes to me when she has problems or her friends doesn’t have time for her. She lives in another state. We talk, we chat but I know we’re not “close”.