- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Heres our prediciment, I am in an interfaith relationship with my FI. I am Jewish,my FI is catholic. Growing up, my FI went to church regularly,and was involved w church choir etc.
My FI and I have been together 3yrs. Over the 3 years one of the bigger obstacles we have faced is my FMIL continuously asking my FI and myself to go to church because “it would mean a lot to her” basically trying to guilt us into going.
My FI no longer enjoys church,he doesn’t feel associate himself as a church-going catholic anymore. In addition, as a thirty-one yr old man feels aggravated that his mother feels the need to always ask us to go to church.
I, on the other hand, feel uncomfortable with fact that she invites me to church several times a yr (this is taking place mainly on holidays) I feel that she is just not being considerate of the fact that I am in fact, Jewish. I didn’t grow up going to church, and days like Easter, and Christmas is just another day for me (besides the fact that its my birthday) this past Xmas, she (of course) told us “it would mean SOO much” to her if we came to church on Christmas…I decided to make an ACCEPTION and go to church Christmas morning, on my 25th birthday…but I don’t think I wanna make “acceptions” for the rest of my life…
my fiancé is so upset, and we had a conversation about an hr ago in which he disclosed that he’s had a conversation w his mom in person, last Christmas about how uncomfortable these desperate pleas for us to come to church all the time, put him into a very uncomfortable position, and apparently,she just kinda of ignored him…
im worried that this stuff will just continue and possibly get worse after we are married, and when we have kids…ugh, I don’t even wanna think about the issues that may arise (baptism,christening,communions….) I’m not even quite sure what all of those things are, but I’m sure she’ll want our children to have them…..ughhh.