- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So here’s my dilemma. I’m marrying a service member whom of which is stationed in a different state, and his job requires him to work constantly with little time for a personal life at the moment. Our wedding is in 57 days. We originally agreed to have a small wedding intimate wedding of no more than 60 people total (due to budget constraints). I cut my guest list down to 30 people total (that’s including guests) I finally received his side of the guest list a few days ago (after badgering him for months to cut the original down, which had close to 80 people on it). It was sent to his mother to collect addresses (keep in mind that I and my mother are paying for the wedding all on our own). At closer inspection by myself, his guest list was only cut down to 50, and his mother keeps adding people back on (not to mention there she assumes people can bring their toddlers and babies). Today, I received an e-mail from her FINALLY offering to help with the cost to add the additional people on the list AND to add even more!!
I have already booked the caterer, cake, invitations, decor etc. to accommodate 60 people total (give or take a few). Plus, the place we’re having the wedding would probably not be able to accommodate much more than that comfortably. So, I spoke to my fiance about it (stressed out of course). When it comes to dealing with his mother, he doesn’t get much accomplished with her, and she pretty much does what she wants anyway (or gets completely catty and judgmental if she doesn’t like an outcome). I would pretty much have to re-plan this wedding to accomodate his side of the family. This number is nothing new. It has always been 60. That number has not changed. I just don’t know how to deal with this considering I know that I will end up having to deal with her myself (because my fiance isn’t the best at dealing with his own mother…sigh). I’m just completely stressed and feel like nixing this whole thing. Please. Any advice??