(Closed) I need major help with RSVP wording. Please help.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

The etiquette is that the invitation is addressed to the person named on the envelope, so as long as you’re putting specific people (it sounds like you are) you are correct and they are wrong. Of course, that doesn’t help you at all. Can you set up your e-RSVP so they have to put in the names of everyone attending, and then address problems individually?

I also feel, and I will get some flack for this, that you’re not necessarily obligated to give coworkers plus-ones. They are going to know so many people there that as long as you sit them all together they should be ok day-of. I know the etiquette about couples being units, but when you’re inviting the whole office it seems more like a work event than a social one, at least from their perspective. IE you would not be inviting them if you did not work together, and they will be seated with all work people. My Boo doesn’t come out to work happy hours and such. (and I am very close friends with a bunch of people I work with; the girl who is marrying us is someone I met at work) If you promised them plus-1s or have already talked to them about bringing dates it might be too late, but I wouldn’t feel bad inviting just coworkers.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our wedding website lists the names of the people who are invited.  We’ve only had one person ask if she could bring someone besides her husband (her MIL!  How funny/cute is that!).  We told her she can because the MIL has known my FI most of his life and our numbers are coming out low anyway.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

The only polite way to address this is to speak privately with those that do mess it up.

It is not polite to assume that guests will be impolite.

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