Post # 1
Let me start by saying i absolutely do not want a normal guestbook. My fiance knows this, and agrees with it.
Last night i was searching for other options and came across wishing boxes. If you dont know, basically its where you put out a box and some cards with prompts on them, and people write wishes, predictions, or just little notes on them and put them in the box. i fell in love with the idea, and when i showed it to my fiance, he said he loved the idea.
Now the issue – i bought a white birdcage to use as our cardbox. The top opens up, and i was going to put a ribbon around it with a small paper label that says “Cards”. We also have a box i originally purchased to be the cardbox, that is sort of like a treasure chest but it has sweet sayings on it.
I say we can put out the birdcage and have the guests put their greeting cards and their wishing cards into the birdcage. Fiance says we put the birdcage out for cards, and put the treasure chest box out for the wishing cards. I say putting both out would be confusing.
Post # 3
I can see pros and cons to both. If you have it set up and explained well, I would say doing both would be the best option. Otherwise, you are going to be sorting your cards. I can see people getting confused both ways, but I think as a guest, and just as a “Let’s keep people moving thing” I would prefer two boxes.
Post # 4
I would personally have both. You can have them both in the same area but label the box for “cards” and then the birdcage probably won’t need to be labelled if a little station is set up for it.
I would be more confused with only 1 option as I’d be wondering if I had to choose between putting in a card or wishing card in… depending on the size you may not be able to accomodate each guest potentially putting 2 things in the cage.
Post # 5
I vote for a very very well signed both with the expectation that someone is still going to mess it up 😛
Post # 6
I don’t think it would be confusing at all, unless you are putting everything at one table.
Generally, there is a table for cards/gifts, and then there is a table for the guest book.
For ours.. our guest book will be where they enter.. and the gift table will be on the complete opposite site of the building behind the head table.
Post # 7
I would do 2 seperate things. I would be confused about putting both in the birdcage. However, I would try to do the wishes at the table or somewhere else so the line doesn’t get too backed up!
Post # 8
two boxes, at two different tables. They normally aren’t together anyway
Post # 9
I vote both. I’d put the regular cards in the treasure chest box and the wishing cards into the bird cage. I think it’s wise to put the cards (many with checks and cash) into a box that can lock to prevent people from stealing anything. I’d also probably have the bird cage and wishing cards on their own table – that way people have plenty of room to write!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton
@MrsWinTraining2014: If I was in your situation (already having the two boxes), I would go with your fiance’s suggestion and use the birdcage for cards and the treasure box for wishes and just label each of them.
- I’ve seen wishing boxes and wishing trees before. With both, the slips of paper were small enough that they would easily fall out of a standard birdcage. This might not be an issue for you (depends on your card size!), but it is a concern I would have.
- I think I would want to be able to go through each box separately and not worry about misplacing any cards or wishes.
- Guest books of any type tend to have a line around them, whereas card boxes are a quick and easy drop off. I’d put the treasure box in its own space where there is enough space for a few people to write wishes and drop them off without blocking the cards for the people who want to drop it really quickly.
All that being said, you then have two things to keep track of, carry around, label, and you’ll probably need some extra signage so guests understand the difference. If those are an issue, combining the two would be easier. But I think guests won’t be too confused by having two boxes (if that is your only concern).
ETA: I wrote a novel. So sorry!
Post # 11
I would do the card box at the ceremony, and the bird cage at the reception!
Post # 12
It will help the flow of guests entering the reception if they move along to another area after dropping off their cards. Many people like to take a few minutes to think of what they want to say in a guestbook or on a wish card.
Have you considered placing the wish cards at the place settings and having someone collect them couple of times during the reception?
You could label the birdcage “Cards and Wishes” or have a separate container. Either, or, I wouldn’t waste any energy disagreeing about it.
Post # 13
Not confusing if you provide cute signs that say what they are for.
Post # 14
@RunsWithBears: im not worried about theft, we are only inviting close friends, close family and no plus ones. people we trust. but i do get your point.
Everyone else: thanks for the responses!
Post # 15
@MrsWinTraining2014: Sure, but what about any event staff? Just something to keep in mind!
Post # 16
I will have to side with your FI on this one!
I think it’s more confusing to have both put in 1 box then to have a separate box for each purpose.