I need opinions on a debate me and my fiance are having

posted 3 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I can see pros and cons to both.  If you have it set up and explained well, I would say doing both would be the best option.  Otherwise, you are going to be sorting your cards.  I can see people getting confused both ways, but I think as a guest, and just as a “Let’s keep people moving thing” I would prefer two boxes. 

Post # 4
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would personally have both. You can have them both in the same area but label the box for “cards” and then the birdcage probably won’t need to be labelled if a little station is set up for it. 

I would be more confused with only 1 option as I’d be wondering if I had to choose between putting in a card or wishing card in… depending on the size you may not be able to accomodate each guest potentially putting 2 things in the cage.

Post # 5
3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I vote for a very very well signed both with the expectation that someone is still going to mess it up 😛

Post # 6
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think it would be confusing at all, unless you are putting everything at one table.

Generally, there is a table for cards/gifts, and then there is a table for the guest book.

For ours.. our guest book will be where they enter.. and the gift table will be on the complete opposite site of the building behind the head table.

Post # 7
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would do 2 seperate things. I would be confused about putting both in the birdcage. However, I would try to do the wishes at the table or somewhere else so the line doesn’t get too backed up!

Post # 8
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

two boxes, at two different tables.  They normally aren’t together anyway

Post # 9
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I vote both.  I’d put the regular cards in the treasure chest box and the wishing cards into the bird cage.  I think it’s wise to put the cards (many with checks and cash) into a box that can lock to prevent people from stealing anything.  I’d also probably have the bird cage and wishing cards on their own table – that way people have plenty of room to write!

Post # 10
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

@MrsWinTraining2014:  If I was in your situation (already having the two boxes), I would go with your fiance’s suggestion and use the birdcage for cards and the treasure box for wishes and just label each of them.

  • I’ve seen wishing boxes and wishing trees before. With both, the slips of paper were small enough that they would easily fall out of a standard birdcage. This might not be an issue for you (depends on your card size!), but it is a concern I would have.


  • I think I would want to be able to go through each box separately and not worry about misplacing any cards or wishes.


  • Guest books of any type tend to have a line around them, whereas card boxes are a quick and easy drop off. I’d put the treasure box in its own space where there is enough space for a few people to write wishes and drop them off without blocking the cards for the people who want to drop it really quickly.

All that being said, you then have two things to keep track of, carry around, label, and you’ll probably need some extra signage so guests understand the difference. If those are an issue, combining the two would be easier. But I think guests won’t be too confused by having two boxes (if that is your only concern).


ETA: I wrote a novel. So sorry!

Post # 11
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would do the card box at the ceremony, and the bird cage at the reception!

Post # 12
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It will help the flow of guests entering the reception if  they move along to another area after dropping off their cards. Many people like to take a few minutes to think of what they want to say in a guestbook or on a wish card.

Have you considered placing the wish cards at the place settings and having someone collect them  couple of times during the reception?

You could label the birdcage “Cards and Wishes” or have a separate container. Either, or, I wouldn’t waste any energy disagreeing about it.

Post # 13
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Not confusing if you provide cute signs that say what they are for.

Post # 16
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I will have to side with your FI on this one!

I think it’s more confusing to have both put in 1 box then to have a separate box for each purpose.

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