- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Ok here’s a little (quick version) back story on my situation. I’m 25, work at a big company in Ohio, I’ve been going to school part time for a few years now trying to receive my Bach. in Human Resources, and I’ve decided this is NOT what I want to do for the rest of my life. I’ve always been in the customer service industry, and after almost 10 years, I’ve decided I can’t “suck up” to customer’s for the rest of my life. I’ve also recently experienced a recent company buy out, and after all the changes, unfairness, and complete lack of caring about their employees I’ve decided that “corporate life” just isn’t for me.
I feel like I’ve never known what I’ve wanted to do with my life. When I was 19, it was easier to just say “Well I’m just not sure yet” Or change my mind 15 times. But in my long college career, I’ve already taken been going into nursing, Communications, and lastly HR. I thought this was what I wanted, but being in the work force has completely changed my mind. I’ve always wanted to be one of the lucky people that knew right out of high school what they wanted to do, but that unfortuantely was not the case for me.
So fast forward to now – I currently drive 50 min one way, I work 9-6. I leave my house at 7:50am, work 9-6, drive home, and go to the gym from 715p-815/830p. I go home, fix dinner, clean our apt, get stuff ready for the next morning, and I’m in bed by 10p because I’m so exhausted from going 13+ nonstop. Because of my FI’s job, we have to live in the town we’re at now.. He has to live a certain # of miles away from his company – So moving isn’t an option.
I started to think about 5 months ago about our future, kids, and how I couldn’t imagine working full time, driving 50 min one way and being a mother. I was starting to think of careers I could do that I could make my own schedule, take a week off if I wanted to, and make a good living. (FI is an Electrical Lineman… He’s just starting out, but has the potentional in 5-7 years to top out at a VERY VERY nice salary). Because of FI’s job, I wouldn’t need to make a million dollars – Just enough to help me fuel my purse addiction and my future addiction to buying our children things lol
Sorry to rant – I just want everyone to know my complete situation so I can get helpful advice.
After talking to some friends in the field, I became interested in Massage Therapy. My friend makes her own hours, LOVES what she does, and makes very good money. I’ve always massaged my FI’s back and shoulders or anyone else standing in front of me for that matter = ) But I’ve always been told that I have the thumbs to do it – That I was really good at it. I didn’t think twice about it until about 5-6 months ago. So here’s my dilemma – About a month ago, I had found a school, went and visited, and decided that school was what I wanted to do. I would quit my job, get a part time job for my car payment and gas, and FI would pay rent and the majority of the bills for the next 11 months. LIttle did I know, but FI had purchased my ring and was starting to make payments on it in August. The money I had anticipated being used for rent was now being made on a ring payment. FI couldn’t tell me this because he would then ruin the surprise – So now I have no idea what to do.
If I chose to do the massage therapy school, I want to put 100% of myself into it. I’ve always had a full time job while going to school full time – But since this involves alot of Science (not my strong point) I had decided to not work (except for maybe a serving/bartending job for gas money and my car payment).
I don’t know what to do. I’m unhappy with the drive, with the company itself, and my lack of a life monday – friday. But is it smart to quit my job right before our wedding??? My parents are giving us money for the wedding, but once it’s gone, it’s gone. So anything after that, I’ll need to pick up myself (which I don’t see being much, but I want to have some money to fall back on if need be). Should I stay at my job and suck it up until after the wedding??
Thanks for listening to my crazy long rant!! = )