- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’m fretting! I love my sister-in-law to be dearly but she is causing me some major stress. Her and four other of my friends are my in my bridal party, and they don’t all know each other, so I thought it would be fun to do a get to know you night where we went to dinner and stuff.
A little about my SIL, she never attended public school and has no friends other than me (not in a mean way! she just doesn’t know anyone). She is sweet as can be to me and is my best friend, but she can sometimes be shy in social situations. She was so excited for our night out to meet everyone because it was her first time ever doing something like that.
So we go out. And she barely speaks a word all night…others talked to her often (esp. my Maid/Matron of Honor, who she did talk to alot and also was meeting for the first time that evening). She kind of just drifts off to the side at all the places we went and acts pretty much miserable the whole time. At this point I try to make sure she doesn’t feel left out and I spend a lot of time trying to chat with her and she is just so quiet.
A couple days later, I tell her I chatted with my other BMs and they all said how much they liked her. She changes the subject. I bring it back to that subject and just ask her, “Did you have a good time the other night?”
She responds with, “…I liked meeting your Maid/Matron of Honor.” I ask her about everyone else and she just said she felt awkward having nothing to say. That they were really girly and she wasn’t very girly (she is girly too! They’re just maybe more of a popular girl type of girly? But they were very nice to her all evening!).
I said, “Well they all said they really liked you.” She responded with, “I don’t know why, I barely spoke all night…”
I wanted to respond with , “AND WHOSE FAULT IS THAT?!?!?!” but I didn’t. I just said that they talked with her during dinner and maybe that was why.
WHY is she doing this to me? I understand maybe her feeling shy but first of all, everyone talked with her all night, everyone was really nice to her. AND, if I was in someone’s wedding, even if I didn’t like the bridal party, I would NEVER say that to the bride.
Now I feel like every other wedding event is going to be awkward. How do I handle this? I’m sad because I love my other friends, sad because my sister-in-law (who I love dearly!) didn’t have a good time with them, annoyed because I feel awkward, annoyed because now I’m in this situation.