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We got engaged last September.  By October 10 I had already ordered my dress.  Ever since then I have had second thoughts about this dress.  My mom loves the dress, and my FMIL thinks it is absolutely stunning, but I never had "the dress" moment, and well, I had the feeling there was something else out there for me within 24 hours of my order being placed.  I chaulked it up to the "typical" second thoughts I had been reading about on the boards, and decided I would love it when the dress came in. 

 Well, when my dress came in and I went to try it on there was a dress on a dress form at the dress shop that I fell in love with.  I tried my dress on, and although I know it looks nice on me, it doesn't wow me.  My dress has now been altered and is waiting for the wedding in 45 days...

I was at the dress shop last week and the same dress was back on display.  I did a little poking around and found the dress is in my size.  I know the shop would sell me the sample if I wanted it.  Now, here is where I need the advice..  One of my bridesmaids has a fitting this weekend, and I will have the opportunity to try the dress on (which I have not done yet).  Should I?  I can't get this dress out of my head.  My FI has told me not to unless I am prepared to fall in love with it an buy it. 

I feel like I have a bit of a heavy heart when it comes to my dress...  I am interested in your two cents.  I have attached a photo of me in my dress. 

Here is a link to the dress I have a huge crush on:

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?keywordText=Grace&keywordType=any&pageSize=12&page=1&style=J857

Thanks in advance!

You look gorgeous in your current dress! 

I am going through the exact same thing! It's even harder for me because I did find "The One" but my Mom convinced me to get "The Other One" instead. (It was a therapy moment!) With a little less than 40 days until the wedding, I just don't think I have the time or energy to find a different dress. Do you? Encore Dress shopping is a big commitment! 

Have you considered being a two dress bride? It's running through my mind right now... 

I love YOUR dress!  It looks fabulous on you!  Like everyone has said if you try it on be prepared to buy it!  I went to a bridal shop with the intention of trying on a certain dress...but before I tried it on I saw another one on display that I had seen online a few days before and fell in love with; it was alot more than I could afford though.  But, I tried it on anyway...well, after that I NEVER even tried on the dress that I went in there for....like I said I could not afford it so it made me soooo upset and sad; I knew I shouldn't have...so, I went online and searched and searched to find one preowned (I liked it so much I would have settled for a used one)....I did!  The girl had purchased the dress earlier this year and her wedding was cancelled so I got the dress I'm in love with for half the price! 

but I think maybe you are just having second thoughts...you really love your dress but you saw one that you think might be a little better.... I did the same thing...as much as I love my dress I did have a second thought....it's hard not to when you are seeing wedding dresses all the time!  perfectly normal I think...but again, you look amazing in your dress! 

Thanks ladies, I am still torn, and will probably do what feels right on Saturday. 

@Bananaway, I too chose the dress my mom loved (and kept telling everyone she was the one who picked it and she new that would be the dress)..  I think I gave in just to let her have the "I picked the perfect dress" moment.  In retrospect I should have said let's keep that one as a possibility and keep looking, but I didn't.

As for being a 2 dress bride..  I certainly understand why brides do it.  I never thought there would be so much pressure on me to make our wedding what everyone else has envisioned since I was a little girl, and now it is starting to add up a bit.  So, the idea of a second dress is kind of inticing to me (if I were to fall in love with the second dress after trying it on, I wouldn't tell anyone except for the bridesmaid I will be with on Saturday) and would totally shock everyone!

When I first started shopping for gowns I wanted a simple, elegant, and classic dress.  My idea was when our future family looks at photos from our wedding day 60 years from now I want them to think, "what a beautiful dress", and not "wow, that must have been the rage back then."  (think 80's dresses with puffed sleeves and lace necks)

I appreciate everyone's advice, it has actually made me feel a bit better about the whole situation.  I am prepared to buy it, a.) if I like it, and b.) if the seamstress can do the alterations before 8/30. 

Thanks again, I will update on Saturday afternoon as to what I decided to do!

Update:

I did try the "Grace" dress on today.  I am so, so, so glad I did!  I loved the dress on, and it is beautiful, but it does not look nearly as nice on me as the dress I already own.  Attached is a photo of me in "Grace".

Thank you all for your input and advice, I would not have tried the dress on without the great advice you provided! 

@cookie82 -- I would be interested in which dress you like better now that I have made my "final" decision.  No worries if you don't like my original dress, I have thick skin.  ;)

Thanks again ladies!