- 4 years ago
So pretty much my parents got divorced in 2011
Mom ended it.. kinda out of the blue she had an “emotional affair”. . .
She started dating this other guy right after….. and they have been dating off and on. He does some pretty scum bag things.
They broke up in 2012 after about 6 or so months of dating. . . then they got back together…
She has moved in .. then out… then in…
SO its pretty messy… I told her not to go back the first time…
They got engaged in the summer and started planning a christmas eve wedding. About .. 3 weeks before he called it off saying he wasn’t ready- she was DEVISTATED.
he isn’t an AWFUL guy. . . but … Two days ago she found out he cheated.. Multiple times. She found out 100% With hard evidance and he confsed. He cheated with actual “Escort” Girls
She was going to come move in with me and DH and move back to the city she lives 3 hours away in a small town.
She just texted me to tell me She is going to give him 2 weeks and they might even try counceling.
She isn’t married to the guy.. there have been so many issues. I dunno what to do.
When he called the wedding off I told her to leave he obviously can’t commit. he is always accusing her of cheating – when he is the one doing it..
But she is my mom. SHE is the parent.
DH and I didn’t have a perfect relationshpi and actually sepearated and got back togeher- but neither of us has ever cheated … but I was thankful no one really told me to leave him. But the told me to be careful and I’m sick of telling her to be careful.
I know I can’t force her to do anything but what do I say. Is it bad to just say ” Your a big girl.” Cause … I really can’t. I’ve been so angry at the guy all day ( even before I got her “I’m going to work it out ” Text. I am sick of him hurting her.But I am also sick of… being in the place of the parent.
I know the divorce with my Dad really messed her up quite a bit. After 18 years of being around a strongly controlling and relgious man…who was overweight and 14 + years older then her…. she slept with alot of men… she seriously dresses… “Sexier” then I do… She lost alot of weight – and she was already in really good shape mind you…
I just don’t know what to do.
Sorry for the rambling and bad… awful gramar.
I just need some advice.
My birthday is coming up and she is coming to see me I don’t want him to come- but I don’t want it to be awkward with her.