I need some dress advice…I know absolutely NOTHING.

posted 3 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  most women think they’re “fat.” what are your specs?

depending on where you carry your weight, a-lines tend to be very forgiving. if you have an arm ‘thing,’ i’ve seen some bigger ladies with elbow-length lace sleeves that looked super elegant. rouching is also forgiving if you want to camouflage anything.

Post # 5
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

A-line is a fat girl’s best friend! Also, something with a built-in corset (not just the lacing in the back, but the boning and structure througout the bodice) will nip and tuck you where you need it most.  Even with fat girls, body shapes are very different, so the only way to know what looks best is to go in and try a bunch of different styles on.  Have fun!

Post # 6
1504 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsPanda99:  Well as far as you calling yourself FAT, please don’t sweetie. I know we all at times feel like we are but I highly doubt you are as bad as you percieve yourself to be. And besides your gonna look BEAUTIFUL on your wedding day. For shapewear I heard Rago is better than spanx so u might wanna check that out. As far as dress silhouettes are concerned I would try mermaid- or trumpet-style gown, which will have a slimming effect. A high-waisted A-line dress with a low neckline also complements curves. Find fabrics like satin that provide structure, rather than anything too flowy. In the end you just wanna accentuate the positive. And I know you have that.  🙂

Post # 7
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  i think you fit the bill for curvy, to be honest. i tag fat at like a size 22+ (though some 22’s to be honest i still think are ‘curvy’). but that’s just me.

you really might be able to pull of a more slender silhouette than an a-line. i’ve seen 12-14 size girls in the 5’7″ height range look hot in trumpets or mermaids. i’d avoid a drop waist or a fit-and-flare, because they tend to not be very forgiving on the belly!

the most flattering might be the natural-waist a-line or less-full ballgown, but youll really have to go try on and experiment to know for sure!

jealous of your big boobs! ha!

Post # 11
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsPanda99:  You may not be able to lose alot of weight before your wedding, but you could probably tone up a bit in order to feel beautiful and confident. It makes me sad that you’re so hard on yourself (your specs sound more curvy than fat imo) so maybe the areas that you find fat could benefit from some toning and you’d feel better about the whole process?

I find even just eating healthy and walking, makes me feel thinner even though I know walking for 30 minutes is not shedding pounds. Its all about confidence, and you sound like you need a boost.

Post # 13
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsPanda99:  You need to go to a dress shop and try on any style that interests you, plus any styles that the salesperson thinks would flatter you.  Post some pics and then we can help pic your best style.

Post # 14
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsPanda99:  I agree that for curvier gals, which it seems you are, mermaid or a line is your best bet. Your are NOT fat. Get that out of your head right now. You have curves and a body , there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I wear a 10/12 normally and my dress was a 14. It fit amazing! You need to go to a salon and find something that accentuates and compliments. I promise it’s out There! 




I used to work out 6 hours a day, plus additional activities with motocross and BMX racing, so I know how it is to look back and miss how you used t look. But as the years passed, my old injuries became apparent haven’t now have to get surgery. My body has changed shape, and I e also lost all of my muscle Tone. We get older, our bodies change, that’s just how it goes. It’s nothing to worry about. So please, do nothing but love yourself! your fiance loves you just how you are.


Post # 15
39 posts

@MrsPanda99:  I used to be a size 26, now a size 12 and I feel that a natural waisted gown flatters every body type. It was my favorite when I was heavier and still my go to style. Own your body no matter the size and choose something you feel confident in no matter what. I still dislike my body but a strapless, natural waist always makes me feel gorgeous and hides the things that I think are there. Love your body and own it, find what you feels makes you shine and get it.

Post # 16
4474 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have very large hips and I went for something with a natural waistline. It accentuated the thinnest part of me and covered up the largest part of me. They also say (“they”) that you should try on different silhouettes and onees you may not consider on the hanger because sometimes those end up looking the best on, and you may be surprised with what you gravitate towards. 

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