- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Hello This is my first post, so please be nice! My fiance and I have been together for 10 years. we have a 4yr old son, and bought a house and now we have decided to get married… this summer. I was only planning on having 20 people attend our wedding which will be in a garden at a mueseum. We only have 3 friends total coming, the rest is family. My parents will not be there, nor will my fiance’s mother. I have a lot of friends I work with and outside of work whom I would love to attend, unfortunately it is not in our finances. with mortgage, and property taxes, bills, and groceries, it just does not seem liek we can afford to have a lot of people come. The one thing I love most about weddings are the stag & does. I would really like to have one, even if it meant i had to plan and throw one for myself. I’ve done it before for friends and I was wondering if it’s rude to have a stag and doe to help us cover our wedding costs i f we are not inviting everyone we know. I know most people sell tickets to co workers and such on behalf of their friends, and those people are not invited to the wedding. I just would like the support of my friends and family who won’t be there on our wedding, to come celebrate with us at a stag and doe. If the answer is not, it’s rude and I should not have one, then when my fiance and i decided to throw a larger wedding when we renew our vows, can I have a stag and doe then? We do plan on getting remarried so that we can have the wedding with all our friends and family. is it rude to have one later as apposed to having one now? For me it’s not about the gifts. I know there are a lot of people out there who have a large weddings so they can recieve the gifts, and that is not my case. we have a house already, and anything we needed, we bought for ourselves. I’m not interested in dishware that costs $500 cause I’m pretty sure it won’t make my food taste any differently. if we were to register somewhere it would most likely be the home depot so we can finish our basement. but we will not be doing that either (regestrering) can anyone help me out and give me some advice on the stag and doe? thank you!