(Closed) I need some help with wedding invitations please :)

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Is it ok to want to receive gifts for your wedding?
    Yes, it is totally natural and traditional. People should consider bringing gifts for your wedding. : (8 votes)
    62 %
    No, you are just a one greedy person. : (3 votes)
    23 %
    Other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Etiquette wise, absolutely not.

    Pass the info along by word of mouth or on your wedding website.

    Post # 4
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was under the impression that you dont mention gifts at all in the invitations even if you have registry… you can post something on your wedding website or spread it with word of mouth…

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would definitely NOT have gift info on the invites.  I personally think there should be somewhat of a registry, because some guests like to buy physical gifts, and I bet you’d rather give them some clue to what you need/want rather than them going willy nilly in the store and picking up something you already have.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m not quite sure what you’re asking.  Do you want people to bring gifts?  It sounds like you want gift cards, but isn’t that pretty much the same thing?  It’s still a gift.  It’s pretty standard etiquette to stay far far away from any mention of gifts on invites.  Thats usually passed around by word of mouth or on the wedding website.  You don’t need to have one, but its a good resource for your guests.

    I’m just saying that registry or no registry, there will still be people who choose/insist to buy a physical gift for the wedding because not everyone likes to give cash/gift cards.  just makes life easier to put atleast a few things on one, so they aren’t blindly shopping

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Do not mention anything about gifts on the invite. You can mention a wedding website where the guests can visit for more information (hotels, details, and GIFT information) but nothing that directly relates to the gifts themselves on the invite.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    A lot of people get really, really offended if you put gift info in the invitation. Don’t do it. You can spread the word through your family and bridal party that you’d prefer gift cards or cash to physical gifts. 

    Post # 12
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    184 posts
    Blushing bee

    NEVER put registry info on a wedding invite.  That is a no-no!

    People who want to buy you a gift will either bring you a gift without looking for registry info, buy you a gift card, or make assumptions about what you need and then you’re either stuck with the gift or get to take it back.  Some people think it is tacky/impersonal to give cash or gift cards.

    A registry would prevent some of that hassle for you AND would direct your guests on what you need. 

    You can create an event for your wedding on facebook (NOT to be substituted for an invitation), but you can include registry info there.   You can also create a page on theknot or other websites that will show your wedding info…..or rely on word of mouth.

    The people who CAN buy you a gift, will.

    Those who can’t, won’t. 

    Not for you to worry about.  Just be sure you’re all smiles and grateful no matter what!

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Im with the other bees on here. Dont include gift information.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    From my understading the invitiation itself doesn’t need to have Mr. and Mrs. anyone, that’s just for the envelopes. You’re invitiations should be generic, so everyone will receive the same thing. HOWEVER, if you want to be different and stand out, it might be a nice twist to personalize the invites with: Mr. and Mrs. We wish to cordially invite you to ……. I can’t speak on the etiquette of it, but that’s my opinion for what it’s worth.

    As far as the gifts on the invite, probably not a good idea. Wedding website is the way to go.

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