I NEED TO CANCEL A VENDOR, and I really need my deposit back…help!

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would just explain your situation and politely ask for the deposit back. If he says no, I guess you could try to go the legal route since you didn’t sign a contract but that would probably just cost you more money. Or you could try to negotiate the money by asking for half if he says no.  

Post # 3
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yeah, good luck with that. He is under no legal obligation to give it back, and a lawyer would cost more than the $500 you spent. In the future, never give money without a mutually agreed upon contract.


Post # 4
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ehhhh I don’t know… you paid a deposit. I don’t think you’ll be getting that back. That’s kind of what a deposit is for. Maybe call him to discuss your concerns and see what he offers you, but I wouldn’t hold out for a return on the deposit. 

Post # 5
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

That was  the point of him asking for a deposit. Can’t hurt to ask, but good luck.

Post # 6
2657 posts
Sugar bee

Unless he is feeling extremely generous, I would not expect the deposit to be returned.  Even if you had signed a contract, the initial deposit would have probably been non-refundable. 

Maybe if you explain that you’re having issues with budget, he can discuss some other options with you.  Perhaps you could do less flowers or an in-season flower to stay within a smaller budget.

Post # 7
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Good luck with that.

Post # 8
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

nhamilton:  You can ask for the deposit back, but it’s likely you won’t get it.  Do you know someone else that is getting married on the same day?  If so, you may be able to get it back if you can find him a replacement client.

Post # 10
6446 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

The point of a deposit is so that people don’t cancel on you (or they really think about it before canceling). No harm in trying though. Perhaps ask him to open the date up to other people and if he manages to book something than you’ll get your deposit back.

Post # 11
3217 posts
Sugar bee

You do have a contract with him, a verbal contract.  It is just as valid as a written as you yourself acknowledge that it was to “save your date”. 

The deposit is to protect both parties.  It protects him as he may have had to turn down other bigger paying jobs that day because you had him under deposit.  And it protected you as he was booked and couldn’t accept someone elses job.

You are not owed your deposit back, and are probably unlikely to get it.  If he does give you anything back, it is strictly out of the goodness of his heart.

Post # 12
1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

nhamilton: while most are right when they say he’s under no obligation to return the funds to you I think bleusteels suggestion was the best: see if you can possibly work out an arragement with him based off of the deposit you’ve paid thus far.  Times are hard for folks and a lot of the vendors, especially those that started their own business, can empathize with your situation. Best of luck to you.


Post # 13
43 posts

Dont email him, CALL him OR better yet go in and talk to him IN-PERSON. It is SOOOO much easier to say no to someone in an email then it is when they are standing right in front of you tearing up. Go in and speak with him, let him know your situation from the heart. If he is unwilling to give you back your deposit see if he would be willing to if he is able to book the date with another client. It cant hurt to ask! Good luck!

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