- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
I have been miserable in this relationship for months now and, through therapy and a lot of soul searching, I have realized that it’s because I really don’t feel that my fiance and I are compatible. He hasn’t done anything wrong. He loves me unconditionally even through the 6 month long bad mood that I’ve been in. But, he is really set in his ways and resistant to trying new things. We don’t share a lot of the same interests or passions. Sometimes I feel like we don’t even have anything to talk about. And yet, somehow this relationship is enough for him. However, I really don’t want to settle for a relationship that doesn’t make me happy. I feel selfish and guilty, but I theoretically understand why people say breaking up will be for the best.
The problem is, I have no idea how to end it. I think he is not expecting a breakup, which is my fault for not being honest with him throughout this time. But we live together, and I hate conflict so it’s a tough situation. The last thing I want to do is cause him the pain of a breakup. I can’t even imagine watching him cry – my heart breaks just writing this. Has anyone been through this before? How did you handle it? How did you initiate the conversation? How did you go about moving out? Any advice or words of wisdom would be super helpful.