I NEED to get over this – looking for words of wisdom

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nic01:  I had a bridal shower that I planned and it was full of family with maybe one friend. As for the bacerollete party it will be a mix of me and SOs friends because neither of us has a lot of people we are just dying to party with the night before the wedding. I think once all is said and done you will have a wonderful time 🙂

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nic01:  Yes! When it came to writing the guest list I was just so shocked that I had ZERO friends and then I realized it was because I only ever had 3 friends from high school and one great friend from college. My SO was similar in the fact that we both are just quality people and enjoy quality friends. I think the fear of feeling lame at a small party is normal 🙂

Post # 7
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974 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had given up on a shower bc my wedding is a destination for me (I moved to where FI is from) and my family/friends didn’t make an effort to do anything so I wasn’t about to book a flight and cross my fingers. I just decided not to expect anything and was pleasantly surprised when FI’s friend’s partners decided to throw me one. They took me to brunch and made me a “money tree” which was super sweet. No decor, no games but I was just happy that someone did something on their own so I get where you’re coming from.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Nic01-I don’t think it is appropriate to plan any aspect of a shower for yourself.  That is very gift grabby.  If no one is planning it, you don’t have one.  I would forget about a shower.  And please to everything holy do NOT plan your own shower.  That is wrong on so so many levels.

All your bridesmaids have to do is show up on your wedding day in the designated dress and smile for pictures.  I do think you are being a bit over dramatic.

Post # 11
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Lol, at my shower, ONE of my friends (that wasn’t a member of the bridal party – there were 3 of those) came. The rest of the people there were family.

People that RSVP’d yes just didn’t show up, and only one of those had a legit reason (her grandmother fell and hurt her hip and she took her to the hospital) and she is also the only one who apologized.

My shower sucked, but I got some cool stuff out of it and I learned a good deal of things about members of my bridal party I hadn’t been aware of (though not good things).

You can tell I’m enthused, eh?

But try to go and enjoy yourself and have a good time. I got some nice thoughtful gifts from my aunts and I’m glad that despite the fact that my family views these kind of things as obligations as opposed to enjoyable events, they ate some of the cake I had to take home and gave me towels and serving dishes. 😛 Lol.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Nic01:  I wish I even had a handful! My MOH and I don’t even talk anymore and she was the ONLY friend except my bosses daughter whom I speak with occasionally and my SIL!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Nic01:  getting older is awful! people move, have babies (no common interest apparently if I DONT have a baby yet) and/or like to party hardy!

Husband reassures me i’ll have a new group of friends once i’m preggo and going to classes. lol 

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