(Closed) I need to vent….

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Girl, I hear you loud and clear…  My mom is the opposite, super excited and basically planning the wedding she wishes she had, every time I call her (in Indianapolis) she sucks the fun right out of the planning… All either of us can really do is remind them that “this is our wedding day, not yours”

Keep your chin up! you’ll make it!

Post # 4
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3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m planning a Sunday brunch wedding in MD, where my family lives, though my FI (and his family) and I live in NYC. I keep hearing that people won’t be able to come to this if it’s on a Sunday, but you know what? You can’t please everyone. And those who want to come to your wedding will come to your wedding. That is what’s important to remember.

As for the timing, if your brother is ok with it, then I don’t think anyone has any reason to be concened. That is the risk that he and his FI chose to take by having a long engagement – it’s possible for someone else to get engaged and married in the time that they did so.

Do you have friends or other family who will be supportive?

Post # 5
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Do you normally have a good relationship with your mom?  If yes, try having a calm, open convo about how you’re feeling.  Let her know that you want to share this time in your life with her and feel like she is happy and excited for you and you’re not getting that feeling right now.  My hope would be that YOUR happiness will outweigh her convenience.  And even if she is bummed about certain aspects that you’ll choose, hopefully she’ll be able to voice them and then drop it!:)

If you normally don’t have a great relationship I urge you to disconnect yourself as much as possible from other people’s opinions.  There is no possible way to please everyone and the most important thing is that you and FI have the wedding YOU TWO dream of!

Good luck and keep us updated:)

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You could always try having it somewhere in the middle, so that everyone has to travel. But honestly, you have to do what’s best for you. You just have to be ok with the fact that wherever you have it, some people won’t come.

Moms can be difficult, and only you know your situation with her best. Either keep her at arms length, or have a conversation with her about how you need her there for you to support you and your decisions

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