- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Ok so my dad left when I was 4 and left the country (Bosnia) we have minimal contact – one phone call a year if he can be bothered. My mum has raised me and is giving me away. My Nan is closer to my Dad and they speak every 6 months or so. And so he found out from her that I was getting married, and rings me up to say that he wants to be there, I say OK and that since he’s short of funds he can stay with my nan free of charge. But he’s paying for his flights – I wouldn’t choose for him to be there but I can understand him wanting to be there!
He then calls up again in March – he thinks he can afford about 3/4 of the flight can we foot the last 1/4 – my Mum says she’ll do it because were paying for most of the wedding. Which is fine – he now comes out with “Oh and the visa is more than I can afford” so this time I say fine I’ll pay. As long as you stay two weeks and help my Nan with some of the building work in her house – he says fine and of we go.
Now its May and he calls me up and asks if he will be part of the ceremony? I say that Mum is giving me away but he can be part of the wedding party and sit at the front, ” so will I need a wedding suit?” he asks, I know where this is going so I say ” No no, just wear a normal suit and I’ll get you the tie that the other boys are wearing so you match and a button hole.
The tickets are a lot of money and I’m sure he is just trying to show he cares – but when I was growing up he abused my mum – he still has a drink problem and I wouldn’t have chosen for him to attend.
Now I’m just annoyed.