Post # 1
Of course everyone knows yesterday was Memorial Day. And families usually get together and have a cook out. YAY!! WEll yesterday my Fi and I along with my parents invited his mom and siblings to my parents for a cook out. It was my famly and my way to put an effort to getting along. Again. But, as always, my FMIL and FSIL accomplished being offensive and rude to my parents and me. Somehow I always end up being the center of their jokes and jabs. I have no idea what the heck I ever did to them ( may be just taking away their son and brother??). I just hate that this happens every time we are around each other. I have talked to my FMIL about our relationship and she seems to think it is all good and that everything is fine. I mean she swears that she if fine with the weddiing (since we postponed it) and that she likes me. I mean really… she tellme FI to come home and spend time with thema nd then says " side, there is yard work to be done." Duh.. thats why he pratically live with me. He has 3 siblings 2 brithers and a sister. They can do stuff.
I am sorry. I could go on and on about this stuff with her and how much it annoys me and how offended it get. Goodness I hate bringing up our wedding around my FMIL and FSIL. They make me feel so weird about it.
Okay, it feel kind of better getting that out. lol
Post # 3
Sorry they’re such punk bias! I would think it’d not be as big of a deal with all those siblings at home to put to work, right? Such a manly job. =]
I think your FI should mention to his mom/sister about how rude they were at the bbq you and your parents had them at. I mean, c’mon, common tact says you don’t treat people like that, geesh. I would just have him call up and be like, "ya know, you were kinda rude and offensive to my FI and her parents. I dont’ think it settled well" and have them either apologize (which probably won’t happen, right?) or just make sure that little seed is planted for next time so that maybe they think before they open their big mouths.
I think this is common though…my FI’s grandma walked into my kitchen to find the tupperware strewn on the floor (my mom was looking for a specific size because we were having a bbq and needles to say I shove the tupperware in there and slam the door shut to keep it from falling out…I know I’m not alone!) and made a comment about "oh my it looks like the baby made a mess!" even though it was obvious it was my mom who did it! And of course nobody offered to help my mom bbq or bring out plates or anything except for me and my friends. It always rubbed my mom the wrong way that they made a bad first impression as "guests" in our home and now she ALWAYS brings it up. It’s so dumb that she draws it out so much, so I do sympathize! Sometimes people say things without realizing it’s not appropriate. Does she do this kind of stuff ALL the time? I’d really have your FI bring it up or in person say "that’s not cool"