- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I need to go anon for this one. I must vent and I may be crazy, so please let me know if I am. Just some background..FI and I have been engaged for 3 months and are planning an October 2013 wedding. We just found out that next weekend my FI’s sister will be getting engaged while on a dinner date. Her boyfriend wants his whole family from out of town and her whole family from out of town to be waiting at a nearby bar to celebrate with them after. I knew there was potential that they would get engaged soonish, but I don’t know why I was really hoping it would happen after our wedding. I was sort of a bitch when my FI told me last night. I know I was being ridiculously selfish/bratty, but I couldn’t help it. I just feel like now our wedding wont be as exciting for everyone bc she will be engaged too. Like I feel like his family won’t care about us getting married anymore…and at my shower and stuff I just envision everyone wanting to talk to her about her wedding and see her ring (which I bet will be insane bc her BF always like to show off/one up) and stuff. I am being crazy…right? I like my FSIL a lot (in fact she is a bridesmaid, which I’m wondering if that was a good choice…), but part of me wishes it would have happened later. I honestly can’t say I feel like travelling 2 hours to hang around waiting for them to be done their romantic dinner (who knows how long it will take….) to celebrate with them afterwards. I’m having a hard time being excited about this. Oh well. I dont think FSIL is someone who would try to take away from our wedding at all, so that’s good. And I really am happy for her, but i’m selfishly a little bummed for me. I just hope they don’t try to get married in like Novemeber or something- I hope it is at least in 2014. She actually just went dress shopping with me a few weeks ago and loved my 2nd choice dress which I was torn on- I am secretly hoping she doesn’t get that one for herself. Am I crazy?
I can be so irrational. I just had to vent. I know I shouldn’t feel this way. I just am selfishly wanting the attention to be on us and our wedding and it sort of sucks a little that I have to share it (or at least the my FI’s family’s attention) with my FSIL. Please tell me if I am being insane. It just sucks that his family probably won’t be as excited for our wedding anymore/as into helping us plan it…and now I feel like we really have to make our wedding awesome so they don’t one-up us.
Has anyone been in a similiar situation. Am I totally insane/mega bitch? Please let me know what you think.